We All Have Them, No Matter How Much They Hurt.

Expectations.

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So what are expectations really and why do they hurt so much?

According to google,

So here are my questions, nothing much but I still think about them nonetheless:

Is it really that bad to expect things or life to work out?

Or expect people to see what I'm really going through without really having to tell them?



I mean y'all can agree on how most of the times it is difficult talking about things that we're going through, even when we know that we are supposed to talk about them. I mean people say it's healing,



But then; what happens when the fear of being judged, misunderstood, is more pronounced than the act of seeking out a cure?

We're forced to forge ahead with same ole practices, but added to the complexity of life is this invisible weight on our shoulders.




We end up putting on fake smiles and act like everything is normal because that's what expected of us. The society expects us to be normal, lead perfect lifestyles, as normal folks do.

I mean do we ever really get a break from expectations society has on us to meet?

I mean it hurts when we can't fail to meet the expectations, we're judged and used as an example of what being irresponsible is.

Is the society even aware of the pain their judgment causes? I mean I cannot even my own expectations, how I'm I expected to meet the society's.

Things start getting all heavy, the downward pull is real, but still, somewhere deep in our hearts, we hope that someone will notice the change and at least care enough to enquire about our well being, but as the saying goes;
If wishes were horses, we all would be riding them.



No one takes notice of what really is going, I guess everyone is too preoccupied with their lives to even notice.
The flame of hope,



which at one time was very bright starts to dim, with every passing moment until that one time that it completely goes off.
Our brain, of course, has to make adjustments and adopt this new weight as part of our new reality.

• Where we used to see light now all we can see is darkness.


• Where there was a feeling, we know feel nothing.


• Where we felt loved we feel hated.


• We once felt cared for, but now we feel rejected.

We forget who we are and sometimes get lost in the moment of feeling unloved and unwanted. "No one understands me. I'm all alone."



Our heads cannot stop screaming this to us. For some, this becomes the unfortunate reality, while to others, and through a lot of effort, things start getting better with time.

And I'm not saying that some of us are weak to see the light, it just that I think the darkness is sometimes is too thick to the point that one forgets what light really is.

So;

How would things be if we had zero expectations?

Well, according to me, life would be pretty simple and straight forward. All I would have to worry about would being myself, taking on life as it presents itself every day.

Unfortunately, that's just my perspective. Reality is SAVAGE!

Piece of advice:

In Life Happiness is Equal to Reality Minus Expectations.

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