Be a friend to your friends!

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What is a friend? There are many definitions of "a friend", but in my opinion, a friend is someone who you feel close to, you share secrets with, you spend time with, and you can rely on him. Almost like in "Friends" :))

To make new friends is not hard. Usually depends on you if you want to make friends or not. Nevertheless, the challenge is to maintain a relationship.

You have friends who are not very close to you, and some friends are very close. It's up to you how close in, you allow people to come in your life.

Of course, for a healthy relationship, it's not enough only for one person to invest in it. It's compulsory for both parties to add something to the relationship. If only you are getting involved in maintaining a relationship, you will get tired and fed up with it.

But today we will focus on what is our part in making friends and keep them.

First of all, you should be a listener. Don't allow your mouth to speak in a hurry. It's better to listen first and after that to speak. I know someone who speaks a lot. When I meet her, she doesn't stop speaking. For her is more important to say everything that crosses her mind than listening for one second to what you have to say. Do you know what I do when I meet her? Politely I withdraw myself from her presence. If you want to have friends, listen more than you talk. And, I can assure you, your turn to say something will definitely come.

Secondly, be a person who smiles. A sincere smile can spread the clouds from somebody's life. If you are always sourr and worried, nobody finds pleasure in making you their friend. If the message on your face is: "leave me alone" or "go away", then your friends will stay away, and leave you alone. On the other hand, people find hope when they receive a smile from the bottom of your heart.

Then, be yourself. You do not have to pretend that you are somebody else. Be sincere. You can't pretend for a long time. When people discover that you are not who you say you are, they will depart from the relationship they have with you. The best thing you can do is to be yourself. In this way, you will attract people like you and it will be easy to make friends and to keep them.

You might say that you are not a smiley person, so how is it possible to smile and be yourself. This is a lie you believe. You were created to smile, to bring life and purpose around you. It's not about who you are, it's about how you perceive the things.

So, from today on, start listening what others have to say. You will discover new great things. Smile more every day! You will add value to your friends. And be yourself. Be the best version of you! You are precious and you have value!