is it REALLY what you want? 3 STEPS to understand if you are on the right way to start an awesome 2018 ;)

Many times people ask us how we are, whats'app?, all good?. Many times we answer not thinking about it and many times this happen also when we are trying to answer ourselves too.

It's so common that almost we don't notice, our awareness is less and less, because of work, school, family, thinghs we have to do, but most of all, because of thinghs WE BELIEVE WE HAVE TO DO or TO THINK.

But is it really REAL?

Soon i will write you some questions that i think everybody should ask him/her self unconditionally, in order to gain more awareness about his\her life. It is not important your age, your working position, your Country, your religion or your social status, all of us need to reconnect with ourself and decide what to do in our life.

So let's begin, let's start by talking about the feeling of not going anywhere. Let's talk about the feeling of missing something, let's talking about the feeling of forcement that the society we live in is imposing us.
Let's start from this.

We all live in a context, a family history, made of habits, beliefs, religion, food rules, different perceptions of right and wrong and RULES, RULES RULES, written, unwritten, obvious, not obvious,unspoken, known and hidden.

The FIRST STEP in order to know if you are on the good road is TO KNOW WICH "RULES" YOU GREW UP WITH.
Think about main categories in your life that you find yourself a bit more worried, could be love, work, environment, family, spirituality, ecc ecc and start ask your self for example, what is your general belief about LOVE?
What is your general position about a "good job"? What should it give to you?
Which feeling you have about money? What do you think about rich people? Do you give them a positive connotation or negative?
Wich is your position about God and religion in general? And about the standard of your environment? What makes a friend a good friend? ...
i had a critical momenti in my life, around a year and a half ago that i started asking my self a lot of quesions about what was making me happy. It was a real important moment because was the beginning of a newera for me.
You can ask your self how many questions you want and for every answer you give your self is important to make another step, the following, to be precise:

SECOND STEP: ANALYZE YOUR ANSWERS. WHERE THIS BELIEF COME FROM?
Spend some time asking your self, for example, why, in your opinion, a good job is a job that gives you stability, an office with a title and montly salary, or why you think that in order to be happy you will have to stay with the same partner forever, just take time, you may probably relate to your family, to your teachers, to an idea that came to you from someone you used to esteem, from a bad experience... just take time to be aware.

If till now you are working well you'd probably find yourself spending more time thinking about those areas in your life that give you more worries and more doubts, let's call them the critics areas. Good, you are willing to dig in those areas and this is exactly what you need! Results and answers will come to you soon, i promise.

THIRD STEP is all about QUESTIONING YOUR SELF IF THIS BELIEFs YOU HAVE, IN THOSE CRITIC AREAS, ARE WHAT YOU WANT, WHAT MAKE YOU HAPPY. Or maybe NOT.

YES, THIS IS THE TURNING POINT,

the way we think about what we should do in order to achieve something is totally influenced by the contest we grew up in and not always make us happy, not always is good for us.
LET'S RE THINK ABOUT IT!

You may find that those beliefs keep on being good for you, for your life, but you may find that some of them should be renewed, updated, cause this is what we do in life, we grow and our way of thinking must change with us and FOR us.
You think that your life is becoming a bit stretch in your hometown with your lifelong friends? But this is what you always thought it was good for you? Or maybe you think that your permanent job became boring and you would really like to give a chance to your passion and your real talent but you are afraid to loose your stability, or maybe you always thought that a person of your age should stay in a safe situation ... "you know what you loose but not what you can find, right?" "who wants too much loose everything", " all the world is a little village" and so on... we live in a world that many times in order to defend us try to scare us! But the good news is YOU DON'T NEED TO DEFEND YOUR SELF FROM WHAT YOU DESIRE. What you desire is alive,exactly like you, that you realize it or not, if you will kill it, you would just have more and more regrets, and stop thinking that if you didnt do it it's just for the best. It's not always like that. And you know what, now that you are reading this you are aware of the fact that whatever you want and you don't explore will always come back to you in other forms, moments, time of your life. So, take your time to examine your will,what you miss and what you need to change in order to reach it.

You may find difficulties, quite sure, there is also the possibility that you may find that is not the right thing for you, probably not the right moment, but you know what? There is also the possibility ( a much bigger one) that you will find out that beyond that huge question mark there is a great slide to happiness and to bigger and exciting possibilities that you never explored, and you would have never discovered staying in you comfort zone. So, give it a chance! ;)

I hope you found my article interesting and that some of you related to this, as it happened to me to find my self in this positition it probably happend or it's probably happening right now to some of you, so, that's the power of sharing! thanks for reading and i will keep on sharing my trip...

virtual hugs!

Article based on the book of Vishen Lakiani, "Thecode of the extraordinary mind"