Delayed Gratification, Is It Important?
Life is so full of conveniences lately, It's easy to become impatient. In fact, Many people are incredibly impatient. Waiting in line, or having to wait on anything is such a hassle.
"What? Have I to wait more than two days for shipping? What a Joke! "
Is this going to become a problem in the future? Many people cannot wait for gratification these days! We have to have everything RIGHT NOW!
But is delayed gratification important for our ability to be successful?
Many Things Don't Happen Right Away
Being able to wait, makes it easy to get to your goals. Many people can't handle the consistency and delayed gratification that success often requires.
I've seen this a lot since I became self-employed.
So many people want to be self-employed like I am. And they ask me how I did it. When I let them know that consisted of a year and a half of 12 hour work days While maintaining my job to get to this point. They seemed turned off to the idea completely.
I know a few people who tried to become self-employed, and when their product or service didn't "explode" immediately making a million dollars, They quit and had to get another job.
To them, Self employment wasn't worth the sacrifice they had to make. So they choose to stay at the jobs that they hate.
People Don't Stick With things!
People are so quick to give up these days, Want to watch a video? If you have to wait more than 20 seconds, Many people will leave.
Can't get the career you want right away? Then give up!
So many people are like this! Which holds a huge advantage for those of us willing to keep trying, Learn from failure, Get up again!
I always thought getting what I wanted out of life would be difficult. Because everyone around me makes it appear that way. But as I get older, I realize that people don't get what they want simply because they don't want it bad enough. And when I say "want it bad enough." I'm referring to working towards the goal. Not just sitting around daydreaming about it.
How can you improve your ability to wait?
I hate saying "wait" Because that infers that you are just "floating" through life. By "waiting" I'm referring to fighting, And working towards it. But being patient enough to get your "turn" to be successful.
Know your goals
It bugs me when I talk to people, And they have a series of things they want to do in their short life. But they have no plans, No goals and absolutely no idea how to get there.
Did you know, That there is a cool search engine called "Google?" yeah. If you want to do something you usually can get a step by step guide on how to do it!
We are some dang lucky people. Having access to the internet, All these groups, Books and how to's. It makes getting the life you want 100% easier.
You need to start breaking down your goals. Don't say "I want to become self-employed."
Instead, decide what kind of business you want to build. Look at the people making a ton of money, See what they are doing. ANd gradually lay out a game plan on how you can achieve it.
Plan! Plan! Plan!
How did I become self-employed?
My handy dandy planner! That's how! I keep track of to-do lists. My goals for the week, I also have monthly goals. And I'm trying to improve on my six months/ 12-month goal plans.
Did you know that writing something down can help you achieve the goal?
Then you can get even closer to what you want out of life, By checking your plans. And breaking them down. Into easy steps.
I want to travel out of country hopefully soon! That sounds scary, I have never done it before.
So I broke it down to easy steps.
- Fill out these papers
- Get passport
Then for the hard stuff! Like booking the flight/hotel. Etc.
I'm more likely to do it now because I broke it into smaller steps.
PRACTICE
Delayed gratification takes practice, Next time you want to give up on something make yourself wait longer. It's like a muscle.
Sure, Sometimes you do have to let things go because you aren't going to get the results you want. But at the same time, many of us give up, Right before life is about to change!
Being able to wait a little longer for things, Can have a massive impact and can change the world as you know it. Many people don't have this quality anymore. But you can develop it.
Building wealth is sometimes like losing weight, a little at a time will finally get you there. Delayed gratification is the most important
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Can I build wealth if I start losing my weight?
Lol, joking. Haha.
Very awesome post. I need to remind myself of these things all the time. I want to be self-employed in a few months. It takes alot of patience and dedication. That's the life of an entrepreneur though. Resteemed.
Cheers
I agree with you!
I love that picture with the dimonds! Sometimes i am also unpatiant, but it shows exatly that simetimes it is better to wait and be hard worker! Thanks for the post!
We live in a microwave world, where we expect things fast. So if our internet doesn't load a webpage in half a second, we call to complain.
No wonder the rest of our expectations of what we deserve are not realistic.
Great reminder, as always, about living life well and being willing to work hard to make a difference.
waiting, thinking, and fasting i think are the three most critical skills.
so i agree, but people also have to find that line inbetween and walk it, sometimes people wait too long, a lot of people spend so much time on something that turns out to be a waste of time. knowing when to stop something and move on is hard
So true!! YOu have to know when to quit on things.
Yes, but instant gratification can be so fleetingly wonderful!
It will not last ;)
I agree!! But we need to balance it out hehe :)
Thats why they make this:
For Business & those that like to PARTY ;)
OMG Love this shirt :) I wish I came up with the idea ;)
Sure @aggroed.
actually...after waiting for a looooong time...a sudden change is...an instant gratification...no matter how long or short the time is...it is always a sudden *instant" moment of joy, euphoria that we get like an adrenaline rush...what am afraid you are talking about is easy money which is what most people like to dream about..the only problem is, like kaylinart mentioned, the lack of PLANNING behind it all and not only that but also not putting the planning, wether it is art, writing, traveling, etc., ABOVE money is by far the biggest reasons for unsuccess...remember that steemit is about people it is not an ATM machine or your parent's saving or hereditary :]
omg I just noticed it was you aggroed :D ...hope you "aggroed" with me... :D
A study was done with a bunch of children. In the study the children were told you can have one marshmallow now or to later. The majority of the children took the one marshmallow now. 15 years later they interview the same group of children and to no surprise saw the children that had the better relationships and family lives had the ability to postpone gratification even as a little child.
I see this same pattern in steemit those that are always pulling all of the steem power out of their steemit account rater than waiting to grow and become a successful contributer to the community. Keeping in mind some people like yourself that have the pleasure of blogging on steem full tine need to pull form the rewards they receive.
Best,
Isaac
I heard that story! I love it!
Right? A lot of people are like that. I pull out some here and there to assist with things, But most of it stays put. I'm hoping the price will drop so I can buy more! I Hope this platform grows so we can reap the benefits of keeping things in there.
Amen to that!
thank you for your unfailing support I will do all I can to pay it forward I think we are both wanting to see the success of this community for the long term. I would buy more but I am already all in as far as crypto goes trying to go unbaked. Thinking about selling more of other alt coins to buy more steem if we do see a healthy dip.
I can very much relate to the picture with the guy 'mining for treasure' and does not give up. I have it myself and look at whenever I get the feeling of quitting. The thing is you only loose when you give up! So keep at it people!
These days it seems that most people want - even expect - instant gratification. I see it in my kids too. Good things take time I say ...
Great post - following
Right? That picture is one of my favorites! Sometimes it just takes a little bit more to get everything that you want.
Yes this is true, that being patient reaps rewards. I kept going with my business for over 10 years now, and meantime have seen many others who left the industry to find other jobs. Though I would like to add that for those who are just starting out in their business, it is better to keep their day job and work on the business at the same time, and until the business picks up then they can quit their day job to focus more on their business. This will take away the anxiety of stability for them during the transition from working for someone to being self employed.
Delayed gratification is this one thing most of us know we should be doing... but then this little devil comes inside us and messes everything up :D Very nice post. :)
Right? I get crazy about that too! I get overwhelmed with impatience and want to start making demands which is a dumb move.