Yes, alien. Once again, bravo. These people you describe are bonafide narcissistic sociopaths. The "guilt" method into coercing others to do your bidding is a whole different level of psychological abuse. Some people feel the need to control others, for whatever reason. And they will do it by whatever means necessary by playing on a human characteristic - empathy. You see, sociopaths don't have an ounce of it in them. But they sure as hell can exploit it in others and derive great pleasure from doing so. Everyone should read about Jonestown. You think - hey, I would never fall for that. I say, these people are genius manipulators. Never say never and watch out for those who appear out of nowhere in your life and seem to know all about you. Run for the hills!