Screw Shyness

Many people want to reduce their shyness, but people who are naturally shy also have gifts that they not appreciate in themselves for example.

Because shy people may prefer listening to, rather than talking. They sometimes become really good listeners. People who are shy might also become a little bit more sensitive to other people’s feeling and emotions. In a sense becoming more emotionally intelligent because of their sensitivity and listening skills. Many people with a shy personality are especially caring towards others and interested in how others feel. People often consider them the finest friends. Of course some people want to feel less shy so that they can have more fun socializing and being themselves around others.

Overcoming shyness takes practice. People who are shy tend to give themselves fewer chances to practice social behaviors. It’s no wonder that people who why away from socializing don’t feel as socially confident, as those who are going. Because they have less practice. The more you practice social behaviors, the easier they get. The more natural they fell for you.

Focus your attention outwards, not on yourself. This is one of the most important aspects of shyness and social anxiety. Most shy people don’t do this on purpose but often attention is consistently drawn to yourself during conversation. This makes yourself aware the wrong way and keep a vicious cycle rotating.

Show interest in other people and or the surrounding. You may feel like everyone is watching you but generally, people are not judging you. Distorted perception is the culprit in this situation. Others are busy doing their own thing and in most cases are not out to get you.

A common misconception is that shy people are introvert in fact enjoy solitude and recharged by spending time alone. On contrary people who are shy desperately want to engage with others but fear scrutiny judgment.

Be sure to take slow, steady steps forward.
Do not confuse movement for progress, sitting back from any situation that might trigger you to feel shy can reinforce shyness and keep it at a level, that’s hard to get past. Build confidence by taking one small forward step at a time.

Aim to break the habit of negative thoughts by becoming aware of when falling prey to them and by challenging their logic. For example just because you’re nervous in a crowd or at party does not mean you look awkward. Others around you may getting a case of the nerves too.

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