Hello steemians, it's a wonderful sunday afternoon here in Nigeria and I wanna talk about attitude

WHAT IS AN ATTITUDE
In psychology, attitude is a psychological construct, a mental and emotional entity that inheres in, or characterizes a person. They are complex and an acquired state through experiences.
Attitude is a small part of our being that goes a long way in determining what happens to us, what we attract and what we repel. Now some are quick to ask, is it really important? My answer? YES!!!
Our attitude determines what happens to us in life, head up and you go up, head down and you are gonna crash. It would be almost impossible to say for sure the number of opportunities missed due to a poor attitude. Keeping a positive attitude everyday is necessary but difficult, difficult because alas we're all humans, full of flaws and inconsistencies, people are frustrating and unpredictable and very different which is why we need to learn how to tailor-make our attitudes to every situation. Many times our attitude is the difference between success and failure so yes it is very important

BUILDING A GREAT ATTITUDE
The amount of self-control and discipline required to build a proper attitude cannot be overemphasized. Building a positive attitude requires training and consistency but most of all the right environment. Our surroundings control how far we go, our mannerisms, how we talk and a whole lot more. You can never soar high like the eagles if you live with the chicken, so if we want to grow and have that positive attitude towards life we MUST surround ourselves with people with these virtues.
Attitudes never stop growing, so even after constructing the right attitude and giving it a good foundation it also has to grow and it requires the right type of lifestyle to grow. The most basic way of growing a proper attitude is exposure, trying something new, gaining experience, having a mind always ready to learn new things.

MAINTAINING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
One thing life always delivers on is bad days, turbulent periods, rough weather, tough goings etc. During periods like this our natural reaction is to abandon that right attitude so as to compensate for the problems but these particular times are when you need the right attitude the most. Remember, what really matters is what happens inside you and not what happens to you. Understand that the weather no matter how rough always clears out for the sun. Alas, we're still humans and find it difficult to remember this truth when we're drowning in troubles, consumed by the uncertainty of tomorrow. The rough weather begins to wear us down and we lose faith and strength. This is the exact time to hold on and with a strong foundation in the right attitude you'll pull through.

"What you sow you reap" yet we can sow and lose out on reaping the benefits because we weren't patient or strong enough to wait.
Lastly, I believe in receiving help and no I do not believe it makes us look weak, it just reminds us we're humans. The natural reaction for a pilot facing difficulties in the sky is to radio control tower for help. Family, friends and society at large was created actively or passively to show that no human can truely survive on his/her own.

ATTITUDE DESTROYERS
The following I call attitude destroyers because i see them as just that and if allowed to fester will break down even the toughest of attitudes

• Fear of failure: It is okay to fail because if at first you don't succeed learn from it then try, try and try again but some people are so afraid of failing that they prefer to not try in the first place. Michael Jordan missed way more shots than he made yet he is arguably the best basketballer ever, why? because he wasn't afraid to miss a shot

There is no security on this earth. There is only opportunity
Douglas MacArthur

• Dread of discouragement: Many times we give up on things we can do just because someone else says you can't and if we entertain discouragements we will have self doubt and begin to think less of ourselves ending up with a diminished image
• Fear of change: Humans are creatures of habits and soon those habits begin to determine who we are but with time and repeatedly doing the same thing we become narrow minded and stagnant. Change is constant and isn't always a bad thing. Never allow your attitude crash over things you cannot control.
• Negativism: We are where we are because of the thoughts that dominate our minds and if those thoughts are negative, well, we're always gonna have negative actions and consequently negative results. Negative thinking makes problems appear bigger than they actually are, creates self doubt during important decision times and prevents you from enjoying life.

To cap it all up we all have a choice to make at every single point in time in our lives. Basically this means it's all up to you what happens to you and if it's not it's still upto you how you react to them and what attitude you choose to use in approaching that situation.

Thanks for reading till the end steemians, have a great day

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER