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RE: Is Kindness A Threat To The Painful Reenactment Of Your Childhood Story?

in #life5 years ago

You bring up some interesting topics. We are, I don't want to say self-destructive, but we drag the crap accumulated through life like a giant anchor behind us. For the most part, I think we are completely unaware of the monster that is eating us from the inside out because it has been there so long that it has in many ways become a piece of us. It becomes a lie Ouroboros, the snake that eats itself. Our issues and brokenness cycle themselves. For instance, my big one is rejection. Now I have some understanding that rejection is a problem for me, but subconsciously is still do stuff to exacerbate the underlying issue. I know that I shouldn't care or be scared of rejection, but I am still weak to it. Rejection causes me to fold in on myself, which causes a feeling of loneliness, which separates me from the world, which makes me feel rejected. And the cycle continues. This cycle has continued so long, that I can't find the genesis of the issue. I don't know where the root of this begins.

So, can we fix the broken inner child? I don't know, I am not a psychologist, I only play one on Steemit. I am not certain we can ever "fix" the inner child, the wounds might heal, but the scars still will remain. I really think, the best we can do is understand and work to make small changes in the trajectory of our lives. These are terrible and powerful habits and learned behaviors that have taken hold and require powerful tools to just chip away at.

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“The wounds might heal, but the scars still will remain” wow I love that you said this one! I used to say it often back in the day;) “the snake that eats itself” where do you get these epic analogies from? I live for it!:P

I think it is safe to say that we’re self-destructive;) but you are absolutely right. Such unhealthy habits are very hard to break and it takes more than just good will to eradicate the f*** out of them;)

I wonder if we can eradicate them. They become part of our machinery that drives us. Like gears that make us run all wonky. We can build other gears to correct the operation, but the wonky gears remain.