What is Absentmindedness and How Can We Live in the Present?

in #life6 years ago

Hi, Steemians!

You are standing on a beautiful beach on a decent summer day. The warmth of the sun against your skin gives you a delightful feeling.

Holding your partner’s hand as they embrace the scenery is wonderfully joyous. You can almost hear her breathe. The whole experience is mesmerizing.

But you are not there. Your body is there. Your eyes, your ears, your hands, and your feet embody you in that place. But your mind is not there. Your mind is racing back and forth between the past and the future, worrying and feeling empty.

You are not taking delight in what is in front of you, because you are going through the ordeal known as absentmindedness.


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The feeling of nostalgy is a falsehood that your mind conjures for you to lose your touch of the present. We often feel like our best days were a specific period of time in our past.

But this is wrong and I can prove it to you with one argument. When you go through your memories of the past, are they perfect?

Can you absolutely remember every detail of everything that you felt or happened to you every day?

Obviously not.

Our mind can only remember chunks of information and images and can never have the whole picture. We remember only a small segment of our sensations and not everything that we felt when we were there.


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Nostalgia is the memory of days long past which go through a filter and come out as something delightful.

The same could be said about your terrible memories. When you were going through a bad time, everything you experienced and felt wasn’t necessarily terrible, but the passage of time has made you filter out all the good.

Our minds deceive us into seeing something generally, and not with detail. This is basically because we are forgetful. We can only maintain bits and pieces of information scattered through many years of living.

By this definition, your best days could be the ones you are experiencing right now.


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Some people worry about the future. They may be experiencing something delightful right now, but their minds are preoccupied by the worry of something that they will have to do in six months.

Both of these mindsets, the nostalgia of the past and the worry of the future, result in a mental state called absentmindedness.

When you are absent-minded, you pay no heed to what you are experiencing right now, and as a result you cannot be grateful for things you have.

Let us skip forward to a couple of years from now. The delightful experience that you are having right now but paying no attention to will ultimately prove to be nostalgic for you in a few years’ time.

All your good days and your bad days will come and pass, and eventually you are left with the same nagging sensation of nostalgia and worry.


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Fight absentmindedness by suppressing the unadulterated worry of the future. Do not think about something that you cannot do anything about.

Fight absentmindedness by understanding that your best days are probably right now. It is up to you to decide what to do with them or how to fully experience them and be grateful for everything that you have.

At the end, one could claim that an absent-minded person has not lived at all.

So, you are not merely fighting a mental state, but a whole lifestyle which is false and erroneous at its core.

A BIG HUG!

@chbartist

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Oh yeah.
Sometimes remembering the past or thinking the future is inevitable.
We're disrupted by these thoughts in our present lives.
Are the past and future thoughts helpful for our present life's journey?
If these thoughts pop-up in our minds what shall we do?

Excellent publication, I think many people without thinking, we go through a mental strain ... we must learn not to stagnate in past things that have hurt us, it is better to remember the good times and know that we make them stronger ... So live and enjoy the present moment. We are what we think.
a hug @chbartist

It would be a waste of time not to enjoy the moment, of course there are days that we can be distracted or worried but not all the time. We have to enjoy each day of our lives to the fullest.

The future is the worst of all abstractions. The future never comes the way you expect it. Is it not more correct to say that it never comes at all? If you wait for A, and comes B, then can we say that what was expected has come? All that really exists, exists within the present. And we must remember this and live here and now.

My dear friend, that problem of continuously expecting really makes me sad sometimes. I like to say that expectations kills happiness.

A good, correct message. The future worries us, and the past holds us. That is why the present eludes us. We must live in the present

Consciousness of the present leads to psychological growth without escaping into the past or future. Experiencing the present at any moment where you experience satisfaction from the fullness of life, this is life with the open heart of this present.

Being preoccupied does not really mean absent mindedness. It could imply that you are engrossed, and in this way, preoccupied. It could imply that you are effectively diverted by musings, individuals and outer occasions, because of absence of core interest. It could likewise imply that you are drained and depleted following full time work. @chbartist @coolguy222

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Thank you Sir, for this reminder!, Most people are excuse me to say are affected with this can of disease "absent minded," They do things without even aware of it.

Absent minded it's common human behaviour but I think always confusion around in Daily day to day in life activity that's a Singh hot dementia.

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Fight absentmindedness by suppressing the unadulterated worry of the future. Do not think about something that you cannot do anything about.

Well said dear @chbartist in these lines. It's simple that we can't do anything then should not think about that too to have a peaceful life.

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