you are not the problem.
don't worry about that. and when they say the semotional security of their current members they only mean, it may re introvert some other trans members to be incontact with a stranger who is not trans. judgementally wise... these kids go through soo much psychologically at school, it's insane. my sister was afraid for a long time for even family members to know about her and then even to be around them after anyways and slowly she be ame ok with extended family knowing and then slowly being around them but even so being around us she was paranoid we were talking behind her back. they are their biggest critics and their biggest enemies. but they do have good reason there are some really malicious fucking arseholes out there. who honestly have nothing better to do even than rag on about the way a pregnant woman with two children are dressed or look. As they never grow up or suffer themselves. It starts in primary school! and gets worse through high school. my sister didn't want to be seen by anybody until she had her surgery. she tried to amputate her member. Lucky for her she suffers from hemophobia. and fainted at the first sign of blood. or else she would not have had much tissue to work with.