Perfectionism in Our Lives. Does it Help or Quite the Opposite? 🤔

Do you also belong to the number of people who want to perform the task at the highest quality level possible and it is not so important what kind of task - be it work work, building relationships, looking good or doing some repairs in the bathroom?

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My best friend is a perfectionist at her core. She always aspires the best result, even in those moments when it is not need. She always tried to do everything as well as possible. Throughout my teenage years, I looked at her and wondered, I thought how she got it and, to admit, I always wanted to have this character trait. Therefore, waking up on an early winter morning, I firmly decided that I would educate inside myself a small perfectionist. In the course of work over the set goal (which took a long time) I've learnt a lot and understood a lot.

First, I managed to improve my discipline. I already wrote about the fact that I do not believe in motivation as many understand it, but I believe in discipline and willpower with all the fibres of the soul. I still remember the feeling when I seem to have done the right thing, but I understand that I can do better. After this understanding, I stood and thought: "Should I leave it that way, because I have other important tasks to do, or should I do better on this one even if I do not have much free time?" Usually, after this thought I inhaled deeply, then exhaled and worked on my imperfect task to the best possible result. At first it was very difficult. My brain came up with a thousand and one reasons why now I can give up on my goal. I also succeeded in finding new "urgent" matters. It took me a lot of effort to explain to myself from time to time that I need to do this, because I want to raise the quality of my life. But literally in two or three months it became easier to finish things to the end, not redoing them again and again. This was clearly visible in sports. For example, when I set a goal to run five kilometres and ran, I realized that I could do one more. Then in my head the thoughts flashed through my mind: "But I'm already so tired", "But I set myself a bar for today 5 kilometers", "Well, today I run five, and tomorrow six kilometers" or "Well this is not the end of my training , I still have power-training ahead." Bringing up perfectionism, I learnt to do my work qualitatively, "even if it was so good already."

Secondly, I realized that perfectionism is not as good as I thought and understood that it hampers me very much. After six months of "doing the maximum", I realized that I was spending too much time trying to overpower myself, although this is not always necessary. Simply there are deeds or goals that really affect our lives, for example, related to work or sports (each of you will have your own different tasks and goals). And there are those to which you should not devote your 100%. Personally for me, these purposes were various tasks at the university. I believe that I need knowledge and skills that I can apply in life, and not everything that is offered at the university or at school suits my criteria.

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Also, I realized that because of the desire to do everything one hundred percent, I can not release my product in any way. Because of the constant desire to correct, modify and modify, I trample on the spot, which does not lead me to the goal and does not bring me satisfaction. What was my surprise when I found out that IT products are produced in semi-cheating condition and only then polished when people use them already. I've read the phrase that changed my thinking:
"If you are considering whether to produce your product on the market because of its shortcomings, then you are already late."

Reflecting on new ideas, I realized that the whole point is that the modern world is racing very fast. There is no time to recheck and prepare. You just have to do it, and then we'll sort it out, as they say, solve problems as they come. At first this thought was very difficult to perceive and assimilate, because my mother always taught me that everything should be done well and very qualitatively - "check yourself before you wreck yourself". But in the modern world, not quality is needed. What is needed is a good idea and action.

Over time, I managed to find a middle ground. Of course it is important to stick to the good quality of what you're doing. Still, it's important to not overthink on this one and get forward at some point. And only you can decide what that point it. :)

I wish you to share with the World what you have! 🌟

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