I figured out why I'm stuck

If theres something that I truly need to work on it is my outlook on positivity. Am i the only one who feels like the more i desperately want something to go a certain way, the Universe does the exact opposite? What is up with that? Fuck a Law of Attraction I just think about how bad something will turn out and the opposite happens 💁
Someone close to me just told me that she thinks that I define success by how many problems i can solve - therefore, i will always seek out a problem to solve in order to feel proactive.
How does one redefine success? How does one change their entire outlook on the world? Welcome to my next challenge.