Why? When someone talks about equal rights, men are always of special concern and their status in view of gender-based violence is always judged as the main suspect. I agree with you, that men are synonymous with power. of course!! but in very few countries in our country it is "proven" that all male judges completely side with the men at the court.
When there is a case in the household, many negative accusations arise due to excessive public intervention for men on the basis that they are physically stronger, more emotional and considered kings in the household. I'm not defending my people, not at all.
Many stories say that when a husband forbids his wife from leaving the house or working, it is considered that "the husband has robbed his wife of her rights." I agree! but women must know that humans are heterogeneous, among men it is difficult to trust their wives outside the home, they are excessively jealous, or even that men adhere to religious laws tightly. then, will women, their wives and even the courts punish their husbands? can we change human nature/character in a short time as we wish?
I don't have much to say, but I really enjoyed your writing, and appreciate your great views on advocating against gender-based violence. We hope that all courts can act as wise mediators in all cases of violence.
Good luck @chant
When you check the statistics of victims, the majority are women and of course, this is because of the negative use of power by men. They want to be in control, they want to make the decisions, and I'm terms of access, men still dominate.
Women are also jealous being but they never for once deny the man’s right to work. Put yourself in the place of the woman and how will you feel, when your partner deprived you from working against your will?
Everyone has rights whether man or woman and should be respected. You should not act at your own selfish reasons and expect the other person to succumb to your controlling actions. They have a say as well, they can also make decisions for themselves because they are adults and not be controlled by a man for his own selfish reasons. If the law states that depriving your wife from working is a crime, then you go against the law, then you should be punished.
Hi @chant , I am happy and really respect the reply to this comment..
Speaking in a gender context, the husband is still a man and the wife is still a woman, the nature and roles of these two types cannot be equated at any time. Men must dominate because their responsibilities are greater from the point of view of beliefs and state law.
Wives can't possibly forbid their husbands from working, that's ridiculous! because the husband is the main person responsible for providing for his wife and family, this applies to almost all nations in the world. And, about the “jealousy” sorry! I only obey the sharia of my Islamic faith, in Islam women are not allowed to be jealous because the husband's position as breadwinner must be free without any pressure. And I won't debate this issue with anyone... Because it's a fix for us..
Correct! Everyone has rights and they must be respected. Do you know one of the rights of a wife? He needs more attention, that attention can take the form of protection. Their best protector is their husband, not money, wealth or even the country.
You talk about selfishness! Do you think selfishness means being selfish and not caring about the interests of other people? That's true, if someone is not married and doesn't have a family. You know? Why should a husband be selfish? Because the husband must be selfish, the meaning of "self" here is his family, the husband is selfish because he must fight to get his rights and justice out there so that he can provide adequate needs for his wife and family. Not for personal needs. ...Sorry, I'm have going a little deeper so that everyone who reads this comment doesn't misunderstand what I mean by being selfish.
If you read my post from start to finish, you know that I strongly challenge gender-based violence in any form. In this context, I also do not prohibit or limit my wife's rights, do you know why? because their rights (men and women) have been innate since birth.
And! Not all gender behavior demands equality. Because nature limits things that are normal but inappropriate for a woman/wife to do.
Thank you very much. There are many positive things from your comments. We discussed it a little excitingly and a lot in this context but still realize that we are in a much bigger and more important context.
I am not against your culture but what I want to say is that bad aspects of culture that dehumanized another fellow human being should not be promoted.
What happened to your kids when death takes you away, your wife will have to suffer to raise the kids because she was deprived of working. @aviral123 might want to share her experience on this.
Don't you think your wife working and earning is a surplus to your family income?
Yes, bad aspects of culture should not be promoted. I agree. Maybe you mean patriarchy? It doesn't need to be promoted because almost all countries in the world have a black record of discriminatory culture against women, and most of it is done by those closest to them. Those who know the true meaning of culture will appreciate it as the identity of a region.
For point 2, you have actually answered yourself in your previous comment.
Is there a country that prohibits women whose husbands leave them from being allowed to remarry? Or if women no longer want to remarry, where is the state's responsibility other than just being smart in making gender regulations and containing thousands of words about saving women's rights, giving equal status and even providing welfare to women?
You know? The government of a country is only able to make gender regulations to be followed up by third parties, while the government itself is hands-off, neglecting old widows, orphaned girls dropping out of school and likes to punish women's mistakes because of trivial matters. Don't force me to give examples, because I'll hate it even more...
For some reason, I feel happy talking about this with you, you have opened my insight and way of thinking to a positive direction, I really appreciate your good intentions..., don't get carried away because each of us lives a different role and culture, as well as the legal system country, customs and religion...