Great post! Thanks for the vulnerability, it's not easy to talk about early ages, fear and shame.
The only thing I would add is that fear is a good thing and it's main purpose is to keep us alive. The issue is that in this busy life we see everything as threatening (from a partner's refuse to a bad grade). If we could just delimit what is really a threat and what is just an opportunity to learn, we would life happier and richer lives.