Dear Jaynie! I'm getting very personal now, and I apologise in advance for that. You are open and direct yourself and perhaps believe me that I don't want to annoy you.
Write freely! Let out what gets you down. Sort yourself out. I've done the same thing for years. But: you're lonely. You won't find contact or company on the Steem or anywhere else online. So write down your grief every eight minutes, but pull the ripcord before you only exist online... And you look super cute in your photos - but I see wine all too often. Take care a little...
Hugs from the heart! And now go for a run or go gardening or power yourself out in some other way.
With all due respect - I am a 44 year old woman and I will cope with a 13year relationship breakup however I see fit that helps prevent me from putting an end to my life entirely. I do not need to be parented here please. If I wanted to be parented, I would have gone and had a conversation with my father.
I have no doubt it came from some kind of a good place, but a little bit out of line for you to think it okay to tell me how to better manage myself, or how long it should take me to deal with this and that I need to "cowboy up" and get on with it.
I will do whatever I need to do, however I need to do it, for as long as I feel I need to do it.
Perhaps it is not company I am seeking here, perhaps it is a safe space to release - and your comment, only makes me feel judged - and yes, highly annoyed.
You don't need to understand how or why I do things - but you do need to respect my choices without imposing your "solutions" on me.
I've now looked at all versions of your reply - the edits wouldn't have been necessary for me, all good.
Far be it from me to tell you what to do like an underage child. Hey - I'm sitting thousands of kilometres away reading your blog! But I'll tell you what I notice (you usually like it and respond to it) - and in this case it's a kind of intervention. Incidentally, this works best when it comes from an outsider and not from your own inner circle.
So don't let me annoy you any further. Just as you use and need writing, I am someone who reads and thinks about it. And then also writes. It doesn't get any better than that, for both of us ;-))
I have no interest in destroying a perfectly nice "friendship" or whatever you call these online interactions - I understand that your intentions were not negative - and mostly I do enjoy as well as appreciate your candid nature, but a little presumptuous to assume I needed an "intervention" to begin with. Just because I share my emotions doesn't mean I am falling apart at the seams. Just because I enjoy having a glass of wine in the evenings does not mean I have lost the plot.
I am a big girl. Made it this far, I am certain I will be just fine. Time is the only real healer anyway.
Thanks.