Showing Up For Your Friends When It Matters The Most
A true friend is not only tested in the moments of celebration or when everything is going rosy, but also in moments of struggles, pain, and when it looks like things are going south. Your true friend does not only walk by your side in your time of victory, but will also stick around even in your lowest point. Being a friend in the point of need, is what shows that you are a friend in deed, and it shows love, sincerity, and loyalty. You will agree with me that when someone shows up when you need them the most, you will understand what true friendship is all about. Trust me, sometimes, it takes sacrifices to be able to be there for someone at the point they need you the most - this is what true friendship is all about.
Life, as you know, is full of seasons, and some of these can be unpredictable and full of uncertainties. When life comes at you so fast with things that you do not expect, you will understand that the value of true friendship shines brighter than ever. I have been in a situation where friends came through for me, and without them, I may not have made a way through. When someone that you care about is going through the rough paths of life, being there for them can make a big difference in their life and even give them the motivation to keep going - knowing that someone cares for them.
It is true that you may not have the perfect solution to the current problem that they are facing, but your presence alone, your words of encouragement, your listening ears, can make them feel better and can lighten their burdens. It may not even be financial or material help that may satisfy their needs at the moment, it might be an advice, a recommendation, or a direction. You have to understand that it is not always the grand gestures that count, even some very little acts of kindness hold very strong potency. I remember a time when I called to check up on one of my friends who I did not see in service for about 3 weeks. It was then that I got to find out that she was facing some challenging moments. I gave her come words of encouragement and a couple of advice. The next service day, she came. She said that the call came at the right time and it was what she needed. You see, something as small as a phone call was what it took to make a difference.
When you have true friends, there is this feeling within you that you are not alone. You will walk with your head high because you are part of a people that cares. Sadly, some of the friends that some people have will only show up when things are going rosy - for fun, for enjoyment, celebration, etc. But when a real need arises, they will bail. What they fail to understand is that a true friendship is built on commitment rather than on convenience. That is, being able to make sacrifices in order to make someone feel better. This also means stepping out of your comfort zone and going all out to put someone else first even if it means inconveniencing yourself. Having someone who is dependable, reliable, who you can count on, and who is always there for you is an underrated blessing.
If you take a look at your life and consider when you were at your lowest point and the people who came through for you, you will agree with me that you will not forget them. In fact, their names will be imprinted in your heart because they gave you strength when you had none, and they gave you hope. Similarly, when you also show up for other people and you extend a hand of kindness to them, they will not forget you. How you feel when someone does good to you is how others will feel when you do good to them. More so, one act of kindness can give birth to other acts of kindness and it will trigger a ripple reaction.
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