Who has the most influence on children

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PEERS has 80% influence on children than parents

This is why PEERS are tag Best Parents in the world, because they have the ability to play the GURU role.

digugu & ditiru = an Indonesian unique name for teachers or influencers.

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From the contexts, the personality that has the most influence on children is their PEERS. I would said Teachers, but from this description I am going to give below, Each day has 24 hours timeframe, and from this percentage, Parents is assumed to have at least 6 to 8 hours to spend with their children. This is only for those parents who tends to be caring. Those who are occupied at their place of work, only have 4 to 5 hours to be with their children. How about the teachers?
Teachers have at least 7 to 8 hours to be with the children. I'm using the school operating time frame. Now, let's talk about the PEERS.

Like they say: show me your friend and I will tell you who you are

Children are 99% influenced by their friends. This are the people they surrounds themselves with. Even when you think they are not talking, they are either chatting or calling or looking.

They talk in classrooms. They talk during the break. They talk while they are returning back to their houses. They chat on WhatsApp, Facebook, Snapchat, tiktok, etc. They play games together through online gaming system. They create time to see themselves even when they are restricted by their parents. They visit themselves. Some uses eye-catchy languages to communicate, that is if their parents are monitoring their actions.

So, PEERS have the most influence on children. Check it out!

My friends! I had three sets best friends. This boys are always the best in the class beginning from my crèche down to primary 6. I had always dreamed of fitting myself into their qualities; but I didn't know how to begin. So I had to make friends with them, and they started showing the way out.

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They started influencing me with their strategies. I adopted it and it work for me. I started practicing, doing, implementing their actions. It built me, expanded me, and made me the picture I was suppose to be. So, friends, depending on the choice you make can either mold or destroy you. Think about that! Thank you.

Yes. I've seen a girl that retrained herself following the lifestyle of her peers. She just wanted to feel along. I remember her telling me, she is going to earn high!. And I imagined how a child of 15 years then would earn high. True! Most of our tiktokers are not even up to 15 years and counting in bills. That's perfectly true.

But as of then, she hasn't started anything related to content creation. Her mindset was focused on the wrong businesses indulge by her friends.

Her friends were SEX WORKERS. So imagine her mingling with such kind of influence. There's nothing beneficial to derive from this mingling; instead a de-wasting of value. In the next three years, she became a tattered prostitute, and the most funniest thing about her story was that she never earned that high income she aspired for.

This girl wasn't a foreigner to this kind of lifestyle. Her parents were pilgrims in the Christian faith. Her Dad happens to be a pastor in one of the biggest and holiest denomination in Nigeria. Should I say they practice holiness, righteousness?. Infact, in their morning devotion, the father will quote different portion of the scripture so as to blend the family together. And she was also a chorister in the church. So imagine a child under this umbrella, becoming dangerous in the future as a result of retraining herself from the original purpose of God for her life.

That indicate: inspite of the background you are bought from, there's a tendency of retraining yourself to get into another fitting.

Do unto others what you want others to do to you.

People believe that ones you are a senior, you have the right to maltreat or bully the junior with your reflexive characters. In the language of reciprocality, I'm not expected to use my influence or my capacity to roughhandle, rough-sketch, maltreat and bully my younger ones. I'm suppose to lead the way. Give them a copy of character that when displayed would not be hurtful or harmful to them.

• Giving them a copy of my character.

My characters are my way of life, my actions, my abilities, my weaknesses and my limits. I give out a copy of my character so they can fits in. And I do this by expression. I talk to them, not harshly. I correct them when they are wrong. I teach them the better fashion of life (the good and the bad) and expose to them what to do to get out of the aftermaths, if paradventure there's an occurence.

I draw them close to myself, and learn from each other. Laugh, play and walk as if we are partners in Christ. By doing this, I'm indirectly replicating my character to them, and children are quick to learning. So when they see the copy of my lifestyle worth of emulation, they would want to embrace.

• I give them my gentleness and take their anger for disposing.

When children around you begin to feel you are accomodative, it draws them more closer to you. There are cases where they will intentionally tempt you just to see the real-you. If you're not expose to this facts, you may end up losing them. So, even at their tempting, you still have the capability to digest the anger and release a gentle spirit to them. It will make them feel loved and accomodative. Think about that.

• I play with their memories

This are simple facts. And I just want those that want to learn to learn. Knowledge is POWERFUL. This is a memory-line that I introduced into children when it comes to influencing them.

When you begin to tell them stories about what they love, what they've experience, their old habits, their new habits, their dressings, the way they smile, the way they position their happiness. You are directly walking into their emotions. And the best way to capture or influence children is to walk into their emotions.

Believe me or not. I'm talking out of eight years experience in handling children. The moment you begin to walk into their emotions. Critically positive. You are beginning to break through into their affairs. This will make them to be more closer to you, because you now understand their presence. Think about that!

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