Finding Fulfilment And Growing By Helping Others

One of my very good friends used to make this statement and I have seen truism in it; "the easiest way to rise is by lifting and helping others to rise." Just to let you know, success is not achieved in isolation, neither does true success require a purely solo effort. In reality, there is a level of success that you will get when you help others and lift them up. As a matter of fact, when you are helping others to grow, you are also indirectly helping yourself to grow too. Life is not just a function of your individual accomplishment, but how you have created impact in others - like sharing knowledge, lifting others, and helping them.

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There is a feeling of fulfilment that comes when you know that someone is rising because of your help, or that someone has succeeded because you raised them. It is the impact you create in others that actually brings the sense of accomplishment. More so, you are a direct beneficiary of the help that you provide to someone. If a pipe helps to carry water to others for example, the same pipe will not be dry and will not lack water. In the same way, when your life becomes a channel of blessing to others, you will not lack blessing yourself. You do not lack what you give but what you hoard.

It is worthy to note that helping others does not mean turning a blind eye on your own needs nor neglecting yourself. Rather, it is to understand that when you offer help to people on their own journey, you are also helping yourself to grow in wisdom, knowledge and in experience. While in school, I noticed that each time I teach my classmates, maybe in a subject that they do not seem to understand well, I will also get more understanding of the topic myself. That is, learning by teaching. In the same way in life, you create an opportunity to grow and be fulfilled when you help people. Just to let you know, you do not diminish by helping people, rather you grow more.

To show you the power of helping others and how it can benefit the giver: In the night where everywhere is dark, everyone in your neighborhood has a candle, but only your own candle is lit. Your own lighted candle will be limited and can barely serve you, talk more of serving the entire neighborhood. Visibility would be so blurred even for you. But when you help to light the other people's candles from your own, then entire neighborhood will be full of light - both for you and others. You see, when you have an opportunity to help people, do not think that you are doing only the person a favour, but also know that you are also doing yourself a favour too, because you will benefit from the help.

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I have also noticed that when you are quick to help people, you also form stronger relationship with people. Friendship is not rocket science, it is a function of how you have built it. The connection you will have tomorrow when you need it, will start from the friendship that you build today. Do not expect people to just help you because you think you have demanded for the help, but because you know you have earned it by your acts of kindness. If you want people to help you, then you also need to help others. When you help people to grow, you will also experience the same growth.

You can create a lasting legacy by the acts of help that you render to people. What makes a blessed memory is not how long the person has lived nor what they accumulated, but how they have impacted people positively. You do not force people to have a good memory of you, but it is what you earn by what you do with what you have. If you are the only one that is blessed within your circle and you have not helped to raise others, then you are not fulfilling the demands of humanity. As a way of conclusion, I will drop this phrase that my uncle used to tell us; "you help yourself when you help others." Think about it.

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