Put Yourself In My Shoes

Greetings beautiful ladies of the Steemforladies community. I'm here again for a contest organised by @fannyescobar on the topic "Put Yourself In My Shoes". Ohhhh my God!!!! This will be interesting as I love topics like this. Scroll on mi hearties!

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How do you feel when you are judged or singled out by another person?

This has never produced a good feeling. It's either I feel sad for being seen for who I'm not or I feel disappointed that they're still humans out there who participate in such derogation or I fear for my personality and what people will now see me as when such rumors get to them.

What bothers you most about being judged or criticised?

The safety of who people take me for is what bothers me fondly. When I am judged or criticised, whatever's on the critic's mind is of zero importance to me. It just doesn't matter. However, what the hearers of this spewed rubbish make out of it is my full business. Who knows? Someone who was to give me a scholarship, bless me financially or recommend me for a quiz may have been seated nearby. On hearing the critic's opinion of me, I may lose all I was meant to have.

How do you handle criticism and how do usually respond to it?

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When I was four months younger, I'd say "I go to the person who criticised me and explain myself". Well, I'm not four months younger so I wouldn't do that. I'll carry on with everything like it's okay. I'll behave like I don't know I was spoken about in the first place. I'll live my life the way I normally do; that'll even hurt the gossips.

I've had this mentality since November last year when it seemed it was a hobby of people in my school to say untrue things about me. A wise person found me in my state of distress and told me that "If nobody talks about you, you're nothing. If only good things are said about you, you have a problem. If only bad things are said about you, you have a problem. If good and bad are said about you, there you go."

As someone who aspires to be a socialmedia celebrity, I should get used early to receiving good and bad comments about myself from other people. Besides, if you do good, people will talk. If you do bad, people will talk. So do what you want and let them talk.

Those who are mature enough or who are meant for me, will still come around to enquire the truth about me. So there's basically no need for me to go around convincing people I'm not who they may have already believed I am.

Have you had a difficult time in life? Applaud your courage and dedicate a few words to yourself.

I have had a difficult time where I waited outside the school gate, six minutes after school closure waiting for my classmate to pull out my note from her bag. My school principal came out and accused me alongside some students whose presence I hadn't even noticed before that time of loitering around instead of going home. I was flogged and publicly scolded for a cause I knew I was innocent of.

Teachers used that instance to accuse me of negatively influencing my friend. I almost lost my sanity within that period. I'll never forget my friend's reassuring words "You're not a bad egg. I can testify to how positively you have transformed my academic life. I am bolder and more intelligent than I was when we first became friends." That was all I needed. I felt a wave of revitalization whoosh down my veins. I have never cared less about criticism in my life.

To myself
Enoobong, I am proud of the young lady you have become. I applaud you for being strong through thick and thin of societal opinion. You are smart, beautiful and virtuous. Your kind is rare. There can't ever be another you. You were created specially.

If you could give your shoes to a Steemian for a day who would it be and why? Do you think that person represents you in courage and strength?

That would be Miss @alysaa. I love her so much. She is my big support here. Of everyone whose assistance I asked, she's the only person who complied. She's so nice.
Yes, I do think she's strong and courageous.

Miss Alysaa

Judging and criticizing is not helpful at all. Why do you think people do it?

I think people criticize out of ignorance of the person's true self, arrogance, envy, jealousy or just lifestyle (some people criticise for a living, without cause).

I invite
@alysaa
@khayjhay
@nsisong2022

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