"SLC-S24/W5 - Thoughts and reflections.

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Tell a short story or experience of your own or close to you that shows how you've experienced giving your all and the other person gives nothing in return.

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Story & Debate

I am sharing what I know about the life of a friend of mine. The story is that Saira and Siam lived in the same area. Saira is a talented painter. Life would emerge with a touch of color on her canvas. One day Siam also came into her life. He is an ambitious writer. Who is fascinated by the depth of Sara and falls in love. The relationship quickly deepens. They get married.

In the beginning, everything was like a story. Siam would praise her talent and give her courage. But after marriage, Siam's self-centeredness gradually became evident. His writing at one time started to be suppressed by Saira's success. At one time, he started mocking Sara's work as unimportant.

Saira has repeatedly remained silent and thought that love means tolerating. But Siam's neglect, dryness and distrust were emptying her from the inside. Some things about Siam began to hurt Saira's respect. One day, Siam canceled a painting exhibition of Siara's paintings. Because it hurt his patriarchal image. Saira was patient. At first, she forgave Siam and tried to understand his talent. But Saira saw Siam doing this to her again and again. So Saira started thinking about herself and for the first time asked herself "Who am I?". Then she promised herself that she would never erase her colors for anyone else's taste or recognition.

After a while, she left Siam. She opened a gallery in a another town and started selling her paintings. There, she discovered the Saira inside herself who had been shown only as a wife or lover.

Question-01: Do you think giving everything is a mistake, or on the contrary, when it's reciprocated, it's nice to give everything. Justify your answer.?

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I think that giving everything is valuable and logical only when the relationship is based on mutual respect and reciprocity. If only one person is giving and the other is taking advantage of them, it leads to a loss of self-respect. Love is not about giving everything; it is a compromise where both parties value each other's love and sacrifice. Giving everything or sacrificing everything is only reasonable when the relationship is balanced with mutual love, respect and sacrifice. If only one person is giving and the other is busy taking, then the relationship becomes unhealthy.

So I think that sacrifice is only worth it when both are giving something. One-sided sacrifice destroys the balance of the relationship. Love is not just an emotion, it is a place of understanding.

Question-02: Do you think giving everything allows people to take advantage of hurting the other person's feelings?

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Yes, when one person is giving everything, sometimes the other party sees it as weakness and feels that he can do whatever he wants. By doing this, they neglect, underestimate, and sometimes even hurt the feelings of the other party. Sometimes if a person gives unlimited sacrifices, the other party starts taking his contribution. Then the other person thinks that he can do whatever he wants. Even neglect, insult or betrayal. When people see that no matter what they do, the other party will never protest, then that silence condones their wrongdoing. Therefore, people can take advantage of excessive self-sacrifice and hurt feelings.

Question: Share a reflection based on the topic you chose.

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This story teaches us one thing that there needs to be a limit to self-sacrifice. The sweetness of a relationship is only when both parties respect and love each other. When we sacrifice our dreams, identity and self-respect just to maintain love, then the relationship gradually becomes a burden. If self-sacrifice is one-sided, then it turns into self-humiliation.

Healthy relationships are built on understanding, respect and sacrifice between the two parties. One-sided love or sacrifice is never the path to lasting happiness. These stories and experiences teach us that self-sacrifice is great only when it is accepted with respect. Love and relationships in life are built on trust, understanding and mutual appreciation. If a person loses himself just to keep someone else happy, he loses his identity, self-respect and happiness. Many people, like Amanda, understand that you cannot hold on to someone by sacrificing everything, but preserving your values ​​is the path to lasting peace.

Question: What phrase applies to this topic? Share it.

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My applicable phrase:

"Don't lose yourself in the process of holding on to someone else."

This phrase is very relevant to this topic. It reminds us that no matter how valuable the relationship is, preserving your self-respect and identity is equally important. Let us not forget ourselves in the name of love. Self-respect should never be sacrificed in the name of a relationship. Self-identity, dreams and respect should come first.

At last my opinion

Relationships are important in life, but even more important is loving, respecting and understanding yourself. If someone loves us, they will never ask us to give up everything.

So, not sacrificing everything but the most balanced relationship is the key to a happy life.

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