SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons

Hello everyone!

I choose the task 3 with the topic Honesty is Always the Best Policy in Relationships! Yes.

Honesty is Always the Best Policy in Relationships! Yes

In general terms this phrase or old saying has worked very well and it implements everywhere in each field whether it is a business or a relationship. So I have chosen this as the positive thing in a relationship because if there is honesty in a relationship then it will be free from the useless doubts and the relationship will grow forward.

Image by Rosy / Bad Homburg / Germany from Pixabay

Here is the debate on this chosen topic.

Rita had been in a relationship with Darren for four years. From the outside they looked like the perfect couple. They used to do matching outfits, weekend getaways, and adorable social media photos. But behind the closed doors of life their love was a glass house waiting to shatter.

Darren was charming but on the other hand he was secretive. Whenever Rita asked about certain messages on his phone or why he stayed out late he would dismiss her by saying that You worry too much.

She knew something was not right. But she did not want to be that girlfriend who pries, who nags, and who doubts. So she kept quiet until she could not.

One day she found undeniable proof that Darren had been unfaithful. It was not for the first time but over several times. It broke her into pieces just like a broken glass. But when she confronted him and what hurt more than the betrayal was this he looked at her and said that I did not tell you because I did not want to hurt you.

At that time she realized something that honesty is not what destroys relationships but it is dishonesty which does it. If Darren had been honest earlier maybe they could have talked, healed, or at least parted with dignity. But the lie became the weight that sank everything.

Rita left. Not because she did not love him but because love without truth is like a locked door. You keep knocking that door but no one opens it.

Today Rita is in a new relationship that is built on the truth. They talk about everything even the uncomfortable parts of life. It is not perfect but it is honest and transparent. And that is the thing which makes it real.

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Pros and Cons of Honesty

Image by Peggy und Marco Lachmann-Anke from Pixabay

We are much aware that each picture has two sides one is the bright side and the other is the dark side of the picture. Similarly honesty has some pros and some cons and these are given below:

PROS (Advantages) of Honesty in Relationships

Here are a the pros of hoesty:

1. Builds Trust: Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. To make the trust more strong and reliable honesty comes into action in this regard.

2. Promotes Emotional Safety: When partners are honest then both the partners feel secure. They become able to express their emotions, desires, and boundaries with each other.

3. Reduces Misunderstandings: Open conversations clear confusion before it turns into conflict.

4. Encourages Growth: Constructive truths even when they are hard to hear help people and the relationships evolve in a better way.

5. Strengthens Connection: Transparency creates deeper intimacy in a relationship. It makes both the partners feel seen and understood.

CONS (Disadvantages) of Honesty in Relationships

Here are the cons or disadvantages of honesty in a relationship:

1. Truth Can Hurt: Being honest can sometimes lead to pain. It happens when the truth is unexpected or unpleasant.

2. Can Cause Conflict: Sometimes well intentioned honesty can cause arguments. It happens when we especially does not deliver honesty with care.

3. Risk of Vulnerability: Sharing everything means exposing parts of yourself. Sometimes they can be misunderstood or misused by others.

4. May Lead to Breakups: Some truths might end relationships. It happens when the truth involve past betrayals or differing values.

5. Not Everyone Values It Equally: If only one partner believes in radical honesty then the other may feel overwhelmed or attacked.

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Final Reflection

Honesty is not just about saying what is true but it is about honoring the relationship with respect and courage. It is easier to fake smiles, avoid conflict, or lie to protect feelings. But those are temporary band aids. Real love needs real conversations. Yes honesty can hurt but dishonesty destroys.

"A relationship without honesty is like a car without gas. You can sit in it all you want, but it would not go anywhere."

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