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RE: A picture and story: The poor happy soul.
I never heard of: Life is happiness and I don't know who said that but it doesn't make sense unless you are into SM and love to suffer,
Have a look at your lesson:
Dear parents, live every child around you.. .live?????
Love can not be forced and children are rarely what parents expect from them, and it works the other way round as well. By far not all parents are what we children hoped for.
I find it very hard to believe that you are able to love everyone around you!
I appreciate your presence on my blog, You spot out my mistakes, thank you very much ma. I know that every child would love to be loved by his or her parents and I have seen situations where a step mother maltreats children that doesn't come from her. At some point, if that child do not see love from his parents you will realise that the child will start moving his ways and he or she can become frustrated. So, thank you once more .
Let'snotpretend that all stepmothers are monsters. How about mothers? Or fathers? Let's say paremts or caretakers should be able to give warmth. Love has to grow. No matter if you are the biological parent or not and this takes time. Let's not pretend it is easy to raise children. I have 5 of myself and 12 foster children and each one of them is different and so are my feelings for them. What one needs the other doesn'tcare about. It's not love but being noticed, fewling safe, a home and the possibility to express oneself and receiving help on the journey of life.
Can you describe what love is? It has many shapes and saying "I love you" is useless if it can't be felt or these are just words said out of habit.
My grandmother said she had a stepmom who took a man with a bunch of children. She said that can't be easy. Sacrificong yourself for strangers seeing you as the enemy, the forced upon replacement of their mother.
I know how it is to be unwanted and I would have been the first selling her parents if that would have been an option. Instead I beared it and left at the age of 15 and never returned. There are many like me and we build a good life, a home for us while others prefer to feel sorry for themselves and never leave and are huminalted till the end of time.
How we start is not up to us, how we are raised is not free chouce but how we handle and act is.
Ithought and this is what I to the woman said: if we would have been strangers we would have never greeted or become friends so let's live our lives and ignore another. This is the last respect I can give you. If she undeestood what I meant I doubt but for a teenager I still believe these were wise words and I never regretted it.it was the best thing I did for me.
Am I frustrated? No.
Can be I am more a thinker and know myself bettee than most people.
I like to add that what most parents see as love is no love at all. If childrem grow up the relationship changes. It's not the baby we hold and feed but the personality we see and that personality can be someone we dislike.
A happy day.
I've picked alot from your content ma, you have given me reasons to see love from the other side and not just the way I thought it is, we learn everyday and I will be very glad to have you correct me, thank you.