Your Losses in Life
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When I saw this topic at first, I didn't think I was going to be making an entry. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't like I haven't lost anything precious before but then the experiences were long gone, not until the worse happened on Tuesday. Who could have imagined I was going to experience such again after all this time.
What have you lost in life that made you cry or feel distressed? Could be inanimate or animate. Narrate your experience |
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Welcome to my participation as I share my experience of a painful loss just recently. Okay, due to how busy I am at the office these days, we are forbidden to be seen with a phone in our hands and being someone who loves to work with music I got myself a new JBL Earpod barely 3 weeks ago so that I can just leave my phone in my bag or pocket and still listen to my favorite tunes. But then, the unthinkable happened.
On this faith day, Tuesday March 25th to be precise, on my way to work I was bouncing along in a tricycle with the wind whipping through my skin as I was jamming out to my favorite tunes on my trusty JBL Earpod. It was just a typical morning commute for me, except that, on this very day I was feeling extra energized thanks to the awesome beats pumping through my ears.
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Then the unthinkable happened when I reached the office. You must be wondering what happened right? Well on getting to the office, I noticed the one ear I was using was low so I put in my hand in my pocket to get the case to charge it while using the other ear since I use just one at a time, here was the surprise my hand came out empty, my heart sinks as I frantically search my pockets and even the purse I was carrying, still nothing. That was when I realised that my Earpod was gone!
A friend of mine asked me, maybe I left it at home, so on getting home after work, I searched and combed everywhere it could have possibly fallen, but still nothing.
It was then I replayed the whole incident in my head, trying to remember where it could have fallen out, it was there and then I remembered that the guy next to me was restless and I have fallen for a pickpocket. The thought of losing my Earpod, the one with the perfect sound for me and the sleekest design was just devastating but then I found comfort in it that nothing else was missing.
Did you blame yourself for the loss or were you meant to lose that thing? How did the losses affect you? |
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Did I blame myself? Well at first, I was shocked it even happened in the first place, then the blame game started running through my head. Questions such as "why did you put it in your pocket when you have always held on to it in vehicles?" came up and I was struggling to forgive my thoughts. My mum came with hers, "why didn't you put it in your purse till you got to the office?" and I couldn't answer any because to me it was just a typical morning commute.
Were you able to let bygones be bygone or are you still in pain for the loss? |
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This happened 3 days ago, obviously I am still hurt as I think of how much I spent to get it and now I am left with just 1 out of the 2 ear with no means of charging. Having the 1 ear keeps reminding me of what I could have done better. But then, I believe with time the pains will be less on me and I will be able to let the bygones be bygones and the pains of how much I got it for will go away hopefully even though I've barely enjoyed the money I spent on it.
What advice would you give the public who may have lost something or someone precious to them? |
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Believe me, losing something or someone precious to us is never easy and it is natural to feel devastated and heartbroken. But then, remember that it is okay to grieve and allow yourself to feel those emotions and when we are done with that, here are some things we can do.
Don't give up hope:
This is because sometimes the things we lose can turn up unexpectedly, so we can keep searching as long as we can, ask around, and check all the usual places. And If we lost a loved one, all we can do is cherish the memories we shared with that person and find comfort in their legacy.
Reach out for support:
No one has all the power, hence talking to friends or family just to share how we are feeling can help us process our loss and cope with the pain.
Focus on what you still have:
Like you asked, did we let bygones be bygones? Well, it is easy to get caught up in what we have lost, but then we have to try to appreciate the good things in our life. Therefore, we should learn to focus on the people and things we love, the experiences shared, and the things that bring us joy and just let bygones be bygones.
The most important thing, remember time heals:
I can't specifically tell you how long it will take, but then the pain of loss will eventually lessen, and we all will find ways to move forward so let's be patient with ourself and allow ourself to heal at our own paces.
I read what I've just written and I laughed, you know what entered my mind? Well, after reading everything, I asked myself if it is that easy? Well, indeed it is a tough journey, but we are not alone and there is great strength in finding support and remembering the good times.
I want to take this opportunity to invite @saintkelvin17, @ikwal and @dorismos.
Thank You for your Time
NOTE: Always have a smile on your face, as you are never fully dressed without one.
Hola estimado amigo. Es normal que nos apeguemos a las cosas materiales que nos hacen sentir bien como es tu caso. También yo me fuera sentido así mismo. Te exitos y bendiciones
Thank you for understanding, that means a lot. It's good to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. Your words are truly encouraging, and I appreciate the well wishes.