Hello Everyone !

I am @hudamalik20 from Pakistan. I hope you all are doing great in your life. Today, I am participating in this Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 84: Dealing With Frenemies .

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Based on the introduction given, define "frenemy" in your own words.

According to me, a frenemy is someone who acts like a friend in front of us but in reality, they don’t wish good for us. They may smile and show care, but behind our back, they are thinking about how to harm us or how to take advantage of us.

They are never truly happy our our happiness. They pretend to be our well wishers in front of others, but inside, they are jealous and try to bring us down whenever they get a chance.

Have you had any experience with such people who claim to be your friend, if yes, share with us?.

Yes, I have faced this kind of situation personally. Since I am the GR (Group Representative) of my class, I had some control over class matters. Because of that, many girls acted very nicely in front of mee showing care, pretending to be my close friends, and behaving well just to stay on my good side. But later, I came to know that those same girls were talking negatively about me behind my back.

They used to say bad things about me to others , they acted like they supported and respected me. I felt really hurt when I found out the truth. I never expected this from people I considered friends.

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It hurt even more when they got to know that I was earning from Steemit. Instead of being happy for me, they started gossiping about me, saying I had become wasteful or proud. Some of them were only close to me when they needed help with notes or studies. But the moment they didn’t need anything, their attitude changed completely. But this experience made me realize that not everyone deserves to be trusted. Now I only keep a few close friends who are truly sincere, and who never used me for their own benefit.

How can one guard ourselves against frenemies early enough before they harm us.

Honestly, there is no exact way to always catch a frenemy from the beginning, but we can try to be careful. In my opinion, we should choose those friends who are truly happy in our happiness and stand with us in our difficult times too. We should not trust anyone blindly, even our best friends, because sometimes people change with time.

We should keep our happy moments and future plans to ourselves. Like if we are learning a new skill, applying for a job, or making a life decision, we should share it only with our parents, not with classmates or friends. Because some people pretend to be our friends, but from inside they are jealous.

Just like I said earlier, I have faced this in my own class. I am the GR of my class, so they act very sweet in front of me, like they really care. But later, I found out they were saying negative things about me behind my back.

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It hurt me a lot. So from my experience, I would say if you feel someone is talking behind your back or thinking bad about you, then it’s better to leave that friendship early. These kinds of people can harm you more later..

Also, if you ever need help, try to manage it yourself. Because frenemies help only for their own benefit and later they keep reminding you that they did something for you.

We should focus on ourselves, think about our future, pray to Allah, and avoid wasting time in fake friendships. I have learned this in my university life, and now I only keep true and honest friends who respect me and never get jealous of my happiness.

Who is a true friend and how can you identify one?

A true friend is someone who stands by us in both good and bad times. We don't recognize them instantly, but with time and experience, we start to see who our real friends are. When others praise us, true friends feel happy for us instead of being jealous. They don’t just enjoy happy moments with us, but they also support us silently when we’re going through tough times.

I have personally experienced this in my life. There were moments when I didn’t even say a single word about my problems to my friends, but they still understood everything just by looking at me. They didn’t wait for me to ask for help they stood with me and encouraged me without judging. They helped me think about solutions to my problems instead of leaving me alone.

If someone said something bad about me, they defended my respect. But they also didn’t support me blindly. If I was wrong, they guided me politely and privately instead of embarrassing me.

They always wanted me to be a better person. When I made good decisions, they stood by me proudly. But when I made wrong choices that could harm me or others, they corrected me with love and showed me the right path.

I also have some anger issues, and sometimes I get emotional easily. My true friends taught me how to control it and how anger can hurt others. With their help, I tried to improve myself and work on my weaknesses do ky my experiences I call them my true friends..

That's it from today’s blog. I hope you liked it. With best wishes. Now I would like to invite:
@neelofarr @norat, @pathanapsana to participate in this amazing contest.

Thanks a lot for reading.

Regards: @hudamalik20