Typical people with negative energy

Maybe everyone has one or two negative energy people around, and you will feel tired, tired, and powerless when you get along with them.

Generally speaking, there are many kinds of negative energy people, in addition to the above-mentioned "depreciating others" type, there are three kinds.

1. "Self-deprecating" type

Such people always think that they are not good anywhere, they seem humble, but they always feel depressing. Even if you repeatedly comfort him, things are not as bad as you think, and he is not as unbearable as he thinks, but he still has to compete and struggle with himself and others. It's like a person falling to the ground, you pull him hard, and finally get yourself in.

2. "Inverted bitter water" type

Such people like to throw all their dissatisfaction with life to others. What kind of person can be called "positive energy"? The lover does not understand, the child is not obedient, and the leader sees him as being bullied, and whatever he can say, the people around him are their emotional trash can.

In fact, the logic behind this is "I had such a bad life, it was all other people's fault", "The whole world owes me", but it will not change.

3. "Pseudo-positive energy" type

This kind of person looks full of positive energy, but in fact it is "false positive energy." For example, if your life is not going well and you want to be comforted, the other party will say: Can't think about this? Be strong and don't think too much.
What's the big deal? I am much worse than you. It's okay, it will pass soon.

They don't understand true empathy, avoid the vulnerability and powerlessness of others or themselves, and they don't know how to solve problems.

His words were like a rubber pounding, tapping so lightly on my heart, and immediately felt a very light and clear feeling. Later, I carefully understood how that feeling came about, and I discovered that I have really done a lot of things over the years, but I didn't take them properly.

How to be a positive person

Many years ago I went to a training session, during which I had lunch with another student, and we inevitably talked about our lives.

When I heard that in addition to taking care of the two children, taking care of the family, I also have to write manuscripts, and I also need to do cases, supervise, and participate in various trainings from time to time. He said to me with appreciation:

You are so capable, you can accomplish so many things!

His words were like a rubber pounding, tapping so lightly on my heart, and immediately felt a very light and clear feeling.

Later, I carefully understood how that feeling came about, and I discovered that I have really done a lot of things over the years, but I didn't take them properly.
I often feel that I am very busy, and the trivial chicken feathers make me very angry and weak.

It was this person who made me realize for the first time: I am really good! I have the ability to take care of my life and work!

Since then, I no longer feel that life is holding me back. On the contrary, that is the true face of life. If I love it, it will love me.

So you see, the true positive energy is understanding, seeing, allowing, and affirming.

I very much like the principle of Jungian School of Psychology for treatment, which is to see the client's resources.

What are resources? It refers to the things he already possesses, including material and spiritual, no matter how bad it is, those resources support him till now.

If you put this principle in your life, it is the beginning of a positive energy life.

My friend complained to me before: I have to take my child to the remedial class again. I'm so annoying, why do I always do this? My husband just needs to go to work?

I laughed and said to her: You should think so, with such a cute child with you, but your husband rarely gets this treatment!

She always feels that she is unhappy. As everyone knows, her job is good, her children are relieved, and her husband can support in major events. Don't be too happy!

It's just that she is used to this kind of life, so she can't feel it, and instead ignores the resources she has.

In fact, negative energy and positive energy are just different perspectives. When you stand low, you can see the gutter and you can also look up at the stars.