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RE: Eine wahnsinnige Kindheit | My insane youth
I will not say that I lived in a neighbourhood like yours with drugs but I recognize a lot of it comes to the mother and and the warnings given if there was an inspection (Child protection - a big joke).
It takes courage to write this, I once did (actually twice and before that I wrote "A Kid's Diary") and it wasn't received well.
The world loves to close its eyes for reality especially if it comes to parents, home (the sacred whatever it may be notballowed to speak about).
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Yes, unfortunately child protection is such an important thing, but in my case it was treated like a joke... Sometimes i get really angry when i think at that time and i wish i would've done things different, but i guess i was too afraid to get beaten again by the mother...
I wish i would've known better back then and told my father at our daily call that nothing is right, instead of everything is right, but back then i had a feeling that i must lie to him. He has had a lot of trouble because of the mother, like i've heared her talk to her lawyer and she made my father looks bad in front of the lawyer, because he doesn't do the things the court has ruled over. But instead he really did everything right, like the court said he must do it. Also he didn't had really a right to see me. I could go to him every second weekend and we saw us once every wednesday in the week between. If he would've tried to see me more the mother would've made a story because it isn't that what the judge decided...
The "wednesday-meeting" was also only arranged since i needed more male contact (according to the welfare center). So i got ONE day more where i could saw him. So in total it went up from 4 days a month to 6 days a month where i could see him. Wow... Wish it woul'vd been the other way: been with the mother those 4-6 days a month and stay by my father the rest of the month.
At least now i have the "right" to do what i want, even if it's against the law. Like back then it was against me, so now i'm against it and they should dare to stop me from that! Not like i would kill someone or something like that, but at least let me keep my joints.
I also hate it to pay taxes. Not because it's money i don't get, to be clear i think universal healthcare is something good. But then again the jugde will get paid from my tax-money, like the Carabinieri get paid from that too. And i don't want that my money get's wasted for such dumb shit...
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Law is a strange thing. There are many laws and next to that rules. The Netherlands has at least 10K and we are all should know them. If that's the case why does one need an advocate?
My experiences with those people (justice) are that they rarely do something. I always had to point out what the law is, what is said, why and how. I have strong doubts about the average advocate, lawyer, journalist, teacher, those claiming to show up when aid is needed (no matter child, animal or adult).
My experiences with child protection aren't good either. I still see that dumb woman and find it unbelievable that she wasn't able to feel the atmosphere to notice a scared to death child.
Unlike you my father left with the words: take good care of your mother and let me take the responsibility for what he started. He wrote a few times and in the 2nd or 3rd letter he did no longer write "dad" underneath but his front name. He already had a new girlfriend (19 years younger) so why the burden of the old family.
I will be the last one to say that my mother is a great person but she became more crazy and violent because he used her to work many years, provide for the family while he could study. As soon as he had his papers he left.
That woman of child support I met years later as she came to ask my opinion about changing my sibling's family name. Two years later the decision could be made by the child and that's what I told her and I let her stand outside. No way, I let that blind monster inside. Except for my mother, there was family I could live with if she had acted.
There's a lot of harm due to these professionals and to parents who don't care. Mine always shouted she would put me on the trains and send me to my father or I had to pack my suitcase because she hated me. So one day I did as told. I went to the attack and took my suitcase and started packing it without saying a word. The result? She shouted she would never forgive me and kicked me off the stairs while beating me with a dog chain.
I learned that even if the entire neighbourhood knows no one will act. It wasn't back then and it isn't today not even with all those anonymous numbers where it can reported. The social helpers, teachers, even the police they all know and no one acts too scared for their own safety.
The police told me literally: Every parent hits his child no and then.
There's a lot of money wasted where a community could step in. If responsibility is the task of police or? Family, neighbours, teachers will stop to act. The fear of an adult is more important than the fear of a child. It's kind of sad.
It would be good if all the support would be stopped and if there's something needed it should be people with feelings able to register which is something (instinct, sensitivity) that is wiped out in every education. Feelings don't seem to count.
I don't see joints as a drug although it's given with us as painkiller as well. Are they forbidden where you live?
I wish you a good weekend and thanks for the talk.