دل ناداں تجھے ہوا کیا ہے/ O restless heart, what ails you so?
دل ناداں تجھے ہوا کیا ہے
آخر اس درد کی دوا کیا ہے
غالب
O restless heart, what ails you so?
What cure exists for this aching woe?
Ghalib
Today, I have nothing vibrant or colorful to share with you. Life has been nothing short of a whirlwind these past few days. Everything feels so overwhelming, leaving me little time or energy for anything else.
Social media? Netflix? I don't have the time, energy, or even the mood for them. Even on Steemit, my presence has been scarce. Yet, this is the only place where I can (if at all) find solace, unwind, and be myself without judgment (or maybe not).
Where do I start from? Ok from the fact that people can be such a**holes sometimes. (Pardon my French!). Why am I such a sensitive soul? And it does hurt when I think about why I can't just let go of this incessant need to not unplease everyone, or worse, why I can’t give people a taste of their own medicine? Why does "What will people think?" is still a part of my life? I think have answers to almost every (rhetorical) question. But I really don't like the answers.
And this, (an)other, fact leads to an other unrhetorical question cum answer...
Why there’s this crushing pressure of society. Why do I even bother with it? Perhaps because we are not solitary beings, no matter how much we wish to be. But here, in the setup where I live, life thrives on gossip. Yes, that’s the word. Gossip fuels their existence, their closed and confined lives where there’s little to do but dissect someone else’s.
It’s suffocating. So yes, here I am, venting my heart out to you, hoping to find some clarity, or at least the comfort of knowing I’m not alone in this struggle.
Do you ever feel this way? Trapped by the expectations of others, these cunning creatures? Those who prey on other people's good intentions.
And why is there always a chain reaction kind of thing? One idiot after another. It’s like these shitty people keep showing up in your life one after the other! In a short span of time. Please tell me it's not only me.
I could have been one of those people — actually, the opposite of them. Opposite to the kind of people who are born with the ability to read the emotions of others. Was it so difficult?
What a nuisance, right? Forget about feeling anything; such wretched people can go to hell. It's easy to say but hard to do because these people are part of your system, environment, and sometimes even your workplace. You have to deal with them no matter what.
But today, I felt a lot of peace, or maybe not. I could have dealt with the b*** more firmly. When someone is unnecessarily stepping into your lane and doing so rudely, it becomes absolutely essential to give them a shut-up call (you know what I mean by shut-up call here). So, yeah, you have to give it to them. Otherwise, they don't know when to stop opening their potty mouth. Sorry again. Just to be clear, I have my limits too. If you keep nagging, you'll get a slap right in the face. Otherwise I am a very docile, peaceful human being.✌️😌
Enough with this venting... I had to! Does it feel good? Erm, I don't know. Maybe when you tell me that I did the right thing... Hihi
Or you can also tell me that it's ok to be rude sometimes.
I just realized I have so many sunset pictures in my gallery. If you’re out of words, or pressed on time, no problem! Just join the vibe and drop a sunset picture too. Solidarity?
I grew up in the city and lived there until I was 30 years old. Despite the considerable population density, I did not often encounter gossip there. The situation changed when I got married and we temporarily (as it seemed to us at the time) moved to the village. At first I was a little shocked. It seemed that some people's heads were designed only to look over the fence into other people's yards. I it was surprising to learn that people were interested in my humble persona. They were interested in knowing everything: where I work, what my position is, where I was born and who my parents are... any information. It is interesting that the information they obtained was mixed with conjectures and absolutely fantastic gossip arose. For a while, people thought that I was almost the head of a big company and could get them all into high-paying jobs, but I don't want to do that because I'm so bad. There were fun times 🤣
There is no recipe for dealing with gossip. Even when I tried to honestly tell people everything that interested them, they still didn't trust me and trusted the gossip.
I mean, really? They wouldn’t let a peaceful human being like you live quietly?
I think people tend to believe whatever fits their idea of someone, regardless of reality. Personally, I am not wired to think ill of others. With every justification in my mind, I want to believe that people are, or at least should be, inherently good, especially since we live in what we like to call a cultured and civilized society.
But the truth is, jealousy, intimidation, or even sheer boredom can push people to gossip. And sometimes, they do it just for the thrill of it. At the end of the day, there’s little one can do to change that, except to rise above and stay true to oneself. Easier said than done. But what other option do we have!
Hey - so many people can't be wrong! Be honest!
🤣 It seems like you are definitely familiar with the issue.
Of course it's okay to be rude sometimes! My recommendation would go further: be rude to all and everyone for the most part. It'll be all the more captivating for someone if you're friendly ;-)) Seriously, you're not in the diplomatic corps, you don't owe anyone humble courtesy.
No, I haven't felt that way yet. I still don't think I'm as thoughtless as those whose behaviour you deplore. I just don't let almost anything extrinsic get to me...
I actually like your advice. It's a good one ;))
I am very much in a similar coprs... Worse, even. Of course metaphorically. I don't even work but very much part of 'organization' teemed with dim-wits. Diplomatic, pathetic, idiot-tatic. Lol. Ok, I have run out of vocabulary. But you get what I am trying to say.
Yes, you have nailed it perfectly.
Erm... It does affect but not for too long :)
Best!!!
In fact, in some cases being rude can actually benefit us. In many cases, being too innocent can lead to unnecessary trouble.
@ nishadi89
میر سے معذرت کے ساتھ کہ
وہ تجھ کو ستاتے ہیں تو تجھ پہ بھی لازم ہے میر
خاک ڈال ، آگ لگا ، نام نہ لے، یاد نہ کر
😉
you did a damn good job girl, coz sometimes it becomes more important to save your energy than to save the people in our life, specially if they are typical toxic and terrible Desi. I don't know k vo kon sa keeeraaa h jo hamien chain ni lany data and we always want to poke nose in other people's affairs. or Sach mn kuch cheezain ham mn as a nation grow kr rhi hn , Kisi ki bi privacy kea cheez h ham ni jantay...bas maaamaaay bny hvy hn har ksi ka .
وہ تجھ کو ستاتے ہیں تو تجھ پہ بھی لازم ہے میر
خاک ڈال ، آگ لگا ، نام نہ لے، یاد نہ کر
I wish we could do that, I wish i could do that.
At least we can rant here about our feelings.
What about making a hate-club-for-clowns:p
Red alert.... women from across the country are uniting on same point😂😎
Millennial and gen z squad on the way😉
😉ہزاروں سال ایسی کہ ہر خواہش پہ دم نکلے
آئے ہاے
زمانے کو کیا برا کہیں ، ہم بھی تو زمانہ ہی ہیں۔
شاید لوگ ہی صحیح ہیں ، ہم ہی غلط ۔
Yar ye keera dunya k hr konay mey paya jata hey. Believe me. Kal meri apni bhabi sey baat ho rai thee, wo Pakistan mey nai rehti... Us k haan bhi ye keera shiddat sey paya jata hey... Lol
Pr aik baat kisi ney barri achi kahee mugh sey: naiki kabhi zaya nai jati. Agr apka dil saaf hey... Tou dafa krein sub ko.
Baki ye k zaroorat prnay pr, has be taufeeq, piece of mind dena boht zaroori hey!!!
Yhi cheez rokay hue hai abtk wrna zuban to har aik k muh m hoti h.
👌جو بات ہے
that's why I keep my mouth shut in 95% situations .
Baqi ap thek kah rhi ho. M ny shayed tasveer ka ik rukh hi dakha h .
Na log chup rehnay daitay, or na he bol k baat banti... 😋
😂😂😂😂
You're not alone dear, you're not alone. Thank God. I thought it is only the case with me. But we're all sailing the same boat(hyper sensitive people like us, those who run on vibes).
I wish i could say this(your post) to them but again karma scares me.
To survive in this world, dheet ban jyen, bara scope hai, par banain kese😶
My best friend( who married a year ago) said, Amina ignore things, your sharp memory(you flex about) isn't gonna help you, it's more like a curse.
I think sometime that all the people in this world should be illiterate/jahil. Who will be offended then?
The word "ignor" is very easy to say and very hard to do. And there comes a time in life when it becomes impossible.
First of all: Thank you for this beautiful picture!
I read your comment many times. And I still don't know what to say or how to reply. What is it that hurts you so much dear? Forget about me... I don't want even to talk about me anymore... I can see so much hurt and pain in your words. Someone has wounded you deeply. I can see.
دل ناداں تجھے ہوا کیا ہے
آخر اس درد کی دوا کیا ہے
Ahhhh yrrrrr what should i say..
The thing is whatever you do some people can't tolerate it. You bear their harsh comments jese tese.
And then you take a big decision of your life, some other things are attached to you now, now when people start bullying them, commenting ugly things about them, that's extremely hard to digest.
Because now they make you doubt yourself, your decisions, and things in which you find peace, but people make sure the other way round:)
دل ناداں تجھے ہوا کیا ہے
آخر اس درد کی دوا کیا ہے
You are not alone in this journey, indeed you are not alone.
It is not necessary to give a shut-up call sometimes, but whenever your self is negated, it is necessary for your peace of mind. This world makes a spectacle of those who are patient. It seems that the "breath of peace" has ended in this world.
I agree :)
Not really. It’s just that the shallow and foolish ones tend to make the most noise. But I wouldn’t worry too much—they get exposed sooner or later.
Naina, you seem like a simple and sensitive soul. I truly hope you surround yourself with positive energy and good people.
Cruel people. Karma is a real bitch... Don't you worry. They will get the taste of their own medicine soon.
Why do good people go out of this world quickly? I miss my father very much. I need them, in everything I do, in everything, with every breath I miss them.
May Allah grant him the highest position in Jannat ul Firdous Ameen.
I know 30x zooming in on the setting sun doesn't capture the essence and emotions in your words and is not aesthetic at all like sunset pictures usually are. But solidarity. ✊️
I'm in no position to advice. I'd only say don't lose your peace of mind for such people. I know it's easier said than done. What I do is ignore and don't mingle more than required.
You have a very good approach towards life in general.
Best! I also don't mingle with a lot many. And I think I will be mingling even less. The less, the merrier...
When people have so much time in their hands, you don’t expect anything less besides gossips. If they were working, trust me, you won’t see all this talks..
I love the action u took, to finally put some of them in their place. Now, that you have done that, the news will fly that “soulfuldreamer” isn’t a push aside after all…
The rest of them, who had intentions of making u angry in the future will learn not to cross their boundaries.
Exactly. Busy people don’t have time to slander others.
Unfortunately, we sometimes find ourselves engaging in gossip. However, I’ve resolved never to be a part of it again. If even one person breaks the cycle, it can help stop gossip from spreading.
Some people, I believe, thrive on negativity. They go to great lengths to tarnish others' reputations. But in the long run, it doesn’t matter. Such people are eventually exposed, one way or another.
Butt-heads are everywhere, it seems. Even though I live in a smaller town (10,000) it feels like the world is becoming less and less courteous, and... unkind.
"But maybe they were having a difficult day?"
Maybe they were, but when you poke below the surface you often find a lifestyle; a personality; not just a bad day.
Which is one of the reasons I find myself isolating more and more as I age because I get exhausted by constantly having to consider how my deeds and words might offend someone so they become displeased and I have to spend time and energy smoothing the waters...
... and are those waters even mine to smooth out?
Now this:
Just after sunset, from our back patio.
In the end, just be you! Because staying true to your authentic self matters more than staying in the good books of some self-involved moron.
There. I said it.
Thanks a million for this message.
You have no idea how much your words resonated with me... One of the the reasons I write here... I have found a great deal of comfort, clarity, and, most importantly, the reassurance that I am not alone. I am not alone in feeling displeased by people and their behavior. Yes, you said it perfectly — when someone digs below the surface, they reveal their true personality. A personality that is often unpleasant. A personality no one wants to associate with or connect with. In the end, such people either find themselves alone or move on to find new prey.
Thank you for this beautiful picture ❤️