RE: Seeing my Anger as mine, Working to Transform it - Take 2!
Great post!
I find myself in a similar position, even if it's a little different. I'm usually a calm person, and whenever I encounter a problem in my life I keep calm and I find ways to solve it, unlike my parents (especially my father) who are constantly angry at life for having so many problem.
However, I discovered that I have one weakness - stupid people. Whenever I find stupid people, I get angry really fast. It may be because I know how it feels to be like that, and how easy you can avoid being so stupid, and make so many mistakes, and destroy everyone's fun just because you can, but I still have difficulties in those kind of situations.
Who knows, maybe at some point in the future I'll learn how to not get angry at all, instead of trying to manage my anger and do my best to keep myself calm.
Hey, An interesting reply - what do you mean by stupid people? Surely you are just viewing them as 'stupid' - do you mean poorly educated? Or just people who you find annoying?
I don't mean to say that anger is bad as it arises when boundaries are crossed and therefore is a good signal to us that something is going on that needs our attention. I think it is a useful energy that we can harness for our own benefit if we know how to use it well!
What doesn't seem to work well is just projecting it out onto others and blaming them for how we feel!
You are right, and when I said "stupid people" I meant the kind of people who are both poorly educated and annoying, think are the best and everyone around them are inferior, for no obvious reason.
I find it difficult to talk to a person like that, or even stay close to him or her, that's why I always prefer to just go away and not listen to anything they have to say.
But you're right, blaming others for how we feel and trying to blame them for our anger is no the way to solve our problems.