Digital friends (Facebook, Steemit) vs real life friends :A Simple Comparison

in #free7 years ago (edited)

Digital games and social media have drastically increased the number of friends we have. Some of us even boast of having 4K + friends on Facebook (and other social media platforms), visual friends on steemit , Linkedin, instagram and online games- even more than a normal human being can physically go out with for an evening cocktail . The definition of friends is highly contested , however for the purpose of this blog, I will define friend according to urbandictionary :

people who are aware of how retarded you are and still manage to be seen in public with you. people who make you laugh till you pee your pants. people who cry for you when one of your special items disappear. when you dont have enough money to get an ice cream, they chip in. knows all of your internet passwords. who would never make you cry just to be mean.

In reality, digital friends does not fully relate to the above definition of friends. The conundrum, however, is many people are turning towards taking their online friends more serious than their real life friends-here are some few points:

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Blackmail from real life friends: Many people have been disappointed or blackmailed by their best or real life friends. Some have even blackmailed them professionally, cheated with their partners and or steal from their friends thus eroding trust. These factors have led to most people turning to their visual contacts in order to at least not feel lonely. Moreover some online friends have turned out to be the ones that helped when their friend is in financial and or emotional need.

Real Friends: For me, I can actually take a visual friend I met on steemit as my best buddy. Reason is that you can meet your soul mate anywhere in the world: someone that will be with you in good and bad times (vice versa). Someone you can trust as business partner, go out for a drink, meet up on holidays etc. Especially someone that qualifies to the true meaning of That’s what Friend are for by Dionne Warwick, Stevie Wonder, Whitney Houston, Luther Vandross “That’s What Friends Are For " watch the video below (wow)

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Conclusion: True friends can come from any source, color, religion, geography and race. The main thing, however, is for an individual to open his mind and accept someone who want to be his/her true friend without being blinded by cynicism, racism, geography, beauty or class. In fact, sometimes, people who are far away can make you feel better than those beside you.

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@charles1 Be careful of who you allow in your life. Choose wisely and you will be happiest.

Hahahah I am indeed very careful..but you never know

As a young lady, I avoid making online friends now due to my parents restrictions. However I do have some great real life friends and agree that friends can come from anywhere including online and offline...thanks a lot for your educative posts

True friends are very hard to find but we must try although baseball is in the real world may exist in cyberspace. But it's really hard to adapt as a new beginner in the steemit world, I'm new to steemit then No one can survive in steemit without any help friends. With friendship, we can help each other, and for those of us who are still weak, look for a good friend, who is ready to help you anytime. Good night mr @charles1, may God always bless you. I am @junsusukhairi from Indonesia (Aceh) a newcomer to the world of steemit. If you wish I want you to look at my post, and if you like it please give upvote. I would be grateful for that.

welcome to steemit and more success to you.

thanks a lot mr @charles1 for upvote in my post, really I am very grateful because among the people who just me just follow you who want to vote my other posts just like robots. I almost give up and have been a bit lazy to post on my blog in steemit, instead of giving up but new people join in steemit really very difficult to get a friend who would just see the post let alone to vote, when I try to make my post as interesting as possible by using photos and discuss them into two languages ​​instead there is no upvote but when I just post just use the usual photographs without any effort to discuss even that in upvote. How to confuse this steemit !!!

To succeed in steemit, you have to blog smart!!! take out time and read my old blog posts for tips..I wish you success

I will follow your advice mr @charles1 by reading the old posts you have posted to try to understand the true meaning of steemit in order to be a motivation for me. Little by little so the hill, with effort and hard work surely sustenance will follow us (what we planted that we learn)

Great and more success to you.

I can only say thank you very much, from the many friends in steemit just you @charles1 who responded positively and encouraged me. Really I can not repay your good service. Thank you very much

You are welcome...keep steeming to more success

Online friends can be just as good or better than IRL ones

I agree with you my dear one @chelsea88 , thanks for your comment

I totally agree that true friends can come from many places ! Great post @charles1 ! most of my friends are on line !👍😀

Welcome...Sleep well

I have around 3k friends on facebook and around 5.6k followers on instagram but what's the use if someday i don't have food or shelter social media frnds won't come up to me and say "well I'll provide you the both" so I think real life frnds are more and far better than social media frnds

Good point , however fro the 3K friends some will help you if they know that you are in need..therefore it depends on how and who you approach

This post has received gratitude of 7.96 % from @appreciator thanks to: @charles1.

Your definition of a "friend" made my day!

I have a slightly different view on this topic. I have a large network online but even though I care for them and I try to help them as often as I can, I only see those people as acquaintances and not as real friends. I feel I miss the real connection if I can't meet them in person.

I only have 3 real friends, but I consider a friend, a person who I can call at 3am in the night and no matter what happened he'll be there for me. All the other person are just acquaintances for me.

Thanks for your posts @charles1
I am reading each and every one of them!
Love that you always provide real value!

Let me know if I could help you in any way!
Cheers!

,Alin

Good point indeed and that is the defintion of a friend which you can get anywhere...

great blog Charles - good to see you kicking goals

welcome my budddy, nice to see you here

Impressive topic!

True friends can come from any source, color, religion, geography and race. The main thing, however, is for an individual to open his mind and accept someone who want to be his/her true friend without being blinded by cynicism, racism, geography, beauty or class. In fact, sometimes, people who are far away can make you feel better than those beside you.

I'm 100 % agree with you.