My answer to a girl who told me that lots of men care less for the women who send them gifts and also take them for granted.

Look.. You have to discipline your self based on the way you want to be treated at each given time, you have to make your man understand that you value your self so much, though you don't have to be 40% selfish about this, and also show that you know your worth, and when ever you give him a gift, he will be happy about it and he will tell his friends about it, it will be a treasure to him, remind him that the gift shows that you also know his worth, he will reserve that gift to be used on occasionally, even if he doesn't really love you, he will respect and take you words seriously.
Another thing is that it's not all men that are so small minded, the mature minded men are not too much in number, we are not up to 25% in our entire population of men generally, men that are mature in mind will never see the reason to take you for granted simply because a female gave him a gift or made him feel special with her time spent with him, or over any sort of sense of care she shows him, no.. Such a man is still growing and not mature enough to be tagged as potential "male" to be applauded by other men for his backward acts as it is a total disgrace to manhood.
Besides, I hope you know that a woman can change a man's thinking and mindset, but before you can do this, you have to be able to convince the man to have so much confidence in you and also believe in you, not by manipulation, or trusting to be the king for him to follow you behind, No.. but by simple personal characters that defines you as a person that has no duplicate out there, you have to be a special person if colorful thoughts that promises that a great future is sure for you, you have to show that you have a special reserve for your self though you can be spontaneous sometimes, you also have to be sure that you don't ever have no place for pretence in your doings, only then you can be able to make a man to change to the way you want him to be, and when he looks into your life, he will see that you do what you say and it's working perfectly well for you, for that reason your advice should also work for him, and he will start doing things like you and unknowingly doing them to please you. 😀
There are so many things to be said but my schedules will be tight for the next 5hours 😀

The start point is this, are you truthful to your self?

Secondly: is your mindset and the way you think show that you are going to get things done the right way?

Lastly: are you sure you have not been following the way of the crowd out there? Because a lot of times the crowd tends to be heading to the wrong direction.

Make an identity for your self and habitually define it to the world.

Thanks. 😀