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RE: The (Martial) Art Of Taking A Compliment
I smiled when I read this. I always used to put myself down after receiving a compliment and that made me feel awkward for some time afterwards. I believe I read something in a very old guide to etiquette which explained how wrong my behaviour was. I soon learned how to repond correctly - in the exact way you describe here.
I consider this a 3 step change. Start by simply saying "thank you" move on to "Thank you, you are very kind" and finally when you have got the hang of it; "Thank you...followed by a return, more constructive compliment" ... just as you have described here.
Totally, it took me ages to learn to accept compliments. There's a way to do it graciously that makes the other person feel good to, so its a great talent to develop. But I did not get taught this life stuff at school (granted it was a few decades ago) Hell even responding with a smile is a step.... I used to scowl. "what, are you crazy?" and made the other person feel bad for saying it.... cool that you were reading a book on etiquette!