Shouldn't men be emotionally weak? by Megha Jajoo On International Men's Day special

Few months back, I was travelling in a bus in Kolkata and that is when, I encountered this situation. A girl was standing in the bus and behind the girl was a guy. The driver pulled the brake and the guy happened to accidentally touch the girl. But obvious. In reflex, the girl simply deduced that the guy had wrong intentions, she turned back in anger and she slapped the guy. Now, I know what you guys must be thinking that I am a girl nagging about how women are ill-treated and how there needs to be a call for change.

BUT WAIT!

Think of it once again, was the guy really at fault? Or is physics to be blamed for this. I mean its simple physics guys, INERTIA OF MOTION. When an object is moving it continues to be in motion until and unless an external force is applied to it. So I think all men are not the same!

ROHAN, a 10 year old boy , passionate for football lost his first ever football match. Struck with grief, this guy is sitting out there in the corner and crying, his mom comes up and consoles him saying, “Don’t cry beta. Ladke nahi rote!” I mean can guys not be emotionally feeble? Are their eyes never meant to shed tears?

ABHISH, couldn’t get through his dream engineering college even after scoring gold grades just because the college had quota for girls and in order to promote “more girls for engineering” they were taking in girls with lesser marks. I mean its good as the intentions are but is it fair for the guys? Is it fair for somebody to not be there even after deserving it more?

SAURAV, who has had the best of his education, always topped his class, in fact, there was nobody else who could solve queries faster than him. He graduated from St. Xavier’s College and today holds a CFA degree. He always wanted to become an international financial analyst but yet “there are no dreams he can dream of”. Why? Because he is the elder most son of the family and he is liable to get back and handle his family business?

The other day I was talking to one of my teachers on his recently married life and that is when I realised that a man is nothing but a sandwich between two superpowers of his life that is his mom and his wife. The struggle is real. I mean this guy just hanging in there like a pendulum, moving to and from, trying to keep both the superpowers happy but somewhere down the line, is he happy himself? I think guys also undergo a transition in their life from being a son to a being a boyfriend, to being a husband, to being a father and just trying to fit in right in the different roles of his life.

Now there is a very famous statement saying “MARD KO DARD NAHI HOTA” but the fact is that “JISE DARD NAHI HOTA WO MARD NAHI HOTA”. The real truth about men is that they also face physical as well as emotional breakdown.

Have you ever thought of a man not being a aggressor but a victim of domestic violence? Mohammad Aminuddin is a living example. He married a divorcee and has a three year old lovely daughter. His wife used to torture him for almost 4 years and this prolonged torture along with pent-up emotion triggered Aminuddin to commit a suicide and when he was about to do one, the thought of his lovely 3 years old daughter and those who are a victim of this trauma stopped him. Today, Ameen does not live with his wife and is allegedly not allowed to meet his daughter. He left his hefty package job at a multinational company and is out on a solo expedition to move around all over India with a tagline on his Royal Enfield stating, “Speak out Mard”. He is doing so to promote as well as motivate all those men who are being a victim of this domestic violence. More shockingly, there has been cases where a guy wants to revolt against the domestic violence he faces but their wives, they take an unethical advantage of the laws that are bending towards women’s safety and, instead, he is being threatened to be implicated with false cases of dowry harassment and domestic violence. Stop stereotyping people!

she can also create a cloud of illusion stating her false suffering and the results can be bizarre as men being put behind the bars. Therefore, guys think of it once again, are women the only sufferer or is the blame game shifting to the other side of the court.

Thank you.