Are you still worried about your emotional intelligence?(Part 1)

Emotional intelligence is a hotly debated topic
I believe we all hope that we can become a person with high emotional intelligence, with the ability to deal with people and be liked by others. In order to improve EQ, I learned many ways, but I also took many detours. In the process of exploring, I found:
A truly high EQ person is not just about being comfortable, but also about being able to talk.

• First, No matter what the occasion, can talk with people, will not be cold and will not make people embarrassed;
• Second, through words and deeds, we know each other's thoughts and know how to take care of others' feelings.......

Good way of speaking, not only can increase their impression points, but also reduce the life, encountered a lot of embarrassing scenes.

Based on my own experience, I've compiled 27 simple and practical tips for communicating with high EQ. Not only can you improve your eloquence, but you can also expand your circle of friends and make more interesting friends.
1. Remember the main points of what the speaker is saying and repeat them in an interrogative tone.
If you want to catch up quickly, replace answers with repeated questions to keep the conversation going and give yourself time to think. Such as:

• "It was a really bad day." "A bad day?"
• "Yesterday I met a black-hearted businessman, and I was completely cheated." " Are you cheated?"

If used in a positive way, it may be dismissed. Be careful.

• "My skin has really improved a lot lately." "Much better?

This is a simple No.1 response technique, easy to learn and practical.

2. If you want to answer, you must first learn to listen.

• First listen to the other person finish, especially for a long time, will listen to the other person will say, you understand the psychology of the other person, know what she wants, in order to say her heart. Once you have a grasp of the other person's interests, you will be able to respond quickly.
  • For example, when someone makes fun of you, they want to hear your approval, so join her in the fun. Approval is done.
  • When your boss listens to your reports, he really listens to your talk about how to make money. Where the money is, it doesn't matter.

You don't have to talk fancy, you just have to talk about what she's interested in, so learn to listen before you talk back.

3. If you don't prepare in advance, meditate for two seconds and then react.

• Delay your response so your mind can fully process the problem without giving the other person the feeling of pause.

4. Develop a regular thinking pattern.

• When confronted with a problem, think about her point first, then give an argument, then support it.

• This mode of thinking will help you organize complex ideas and organize them in a regular, hierarchical way.

• Regular and hierarchical perspectives can reduce the time we spend on thinking and speed up the pace of thinking.

  

5. Accumulate knowledge.

• Reading widely and keeping up with news and current events can help build up your knowledge.

6. Watch more celebrity documentaries, record the deeds of endorsement.
Before the conversation, you can add these. Such as:

• If you're working in a mobile phone store and a customer comes to look at the phone and asks you what it's made of.
  You could say: Steve Jobs asked a question just like yours, and the material is XXXX.

7. Read communication books.

• Books such as 《The Art of Communication》, 《Speak Good》, 《The Way to Speak》, and 《Nonviolent Communication》 cover many of the details of communication that are not commonly thought of.

It can help you improve your communication skills and avoid a lot of minefields.

8 .Collect questions you can't answer before.

• Make a small notebook and write down the answers you think are appropriate and recite them.
• The next time you encounter a problem of the same type, you can immediately activate the hippocampus of your memory to answer it.

9. Follow the other person's positive statements and use facts rather than judgment.
This can show that you are listening and respecting the other person, but it can also show that you recognize the other person.

10. In a group or dorm room, try to express your ideas.

• Speaking to a larger group of people can build your boldness and increase your confidence and ease.
• Say more, can reduce flustered , half a day can not say a word embarrassing situation.

Presenting ideas in a group will make your words more precise and exercise your ability to organize your words.

• There will be an element of persuasion, so you can practice your thinking.
• You may have someone to comment on your ideas on the spot, and you may practice your ability to react on the spot and process verbal information.