Cinderella complex is a woman’s hidden fear of independence; she needs a ‘prince’ to support her financially, emotionally and physically. (Basically being codependent)

Borderline is applicable for both men and women and goes way beyond codependency. It centers around the fear of abandonment and expresses itself in a completely distorted thought process due to disregulated emotions/thoughts as a result of trauma. Their nervous system basically sees everything as a ‘threath’ that could lead to abandonment and they translate their feelings into facts instead of other way around. This is completely mind blowing to a person that does not have or understand borderline. They basically acuse you all the time of things you did not do, but that are very real in their head.