Complaining is the catharsis of negative emotions

"I'm wrong. I'm really wrong. I shouldn't have married here. If I don't marry here, my husband won't die. If my husband doesn't die, I won't be reduced to such a sad state."

John works in a large electrical company in Washington.When he first entered the enterprise, he was just an ordinary employee of a branch store, and his work was the daily cargo handling and shop cleaning.In this position, John worked assiduously for ten years.

In the past ten years, he has endured with no regrets the difficulties of customers, the scolding of superiors, the exclusion of colleagues, the frustration of work and the nagging of his wifeThis decade has been a long time, but because he has been actively pursuing it, it is still full and calm.Ten years later, John was no longer the obscure little shopping guide. He became the leader of a dozen chain stores.While he was climbing to the top of his career, he gradually felt lost.

On a leisurely evening, John, with his cigar in his hand, recalled his hard work on the large balcony of his new villa.In this decade, work seems to have been the driving force and core of his life. He devoted two-thirds of his time to struggle and countless social activities.

When his son was born, he didn't accompany his wife because he had to take an important qualification examination. his father was hospitalized with cerebral thrombosis, but he himself was far away from France because of his business. he never had time to attend his relatives' birthday parties in person, but he only ordered a birthday cake from the cake shop to send it. in the past 10 years, he never spent Valentine's day with his wife,And the number of times I accompany my son to the zoo is also very few

Thinking of the ten years of hard work and hard work, his reputation and money have suddenly become worthless in his eyes, and he is disgusted with this gorgeous new house.

"I'm disgusted with my life now. From morning till night, I don't have any time to feel life and enjoy the happiness of being with my family."

"I spend so much time on meaningless things, such as drinking all night with clients who might have an interest in me, trying to win the favor of strangers, attending boring and noisy dinners in the upper class, and staying in the office all night dealing with irrelevant data,I don't have time to change my son's diapers, I don't have the opportunity to attend his parents' meeting, and I can't play golf with him in the garden on weekends because I have to play those slow golf with my clients I'm tired of my life now. I feel very tired! Very tired! "

At the end of the third cigar, John complained to his wife affectionately and sullently. After complaining, he made such a decision: quit his job and live a life of ordinary people easily and peacefully.

The next day, he submitted his resignation application to his boss, who repeatedly urged him to consider it again.

However, John's attitude was so firm that he could not pull back ten bulls.After the dissuasion failed, the boss had to compromise: "I don't approve your resignation request, but I can give you a long vacation. I welcome you back anytime you want to work.As for the resignation application, I will keep it for you first, and I will return it to you when you come back! "

"Whatever you want. I don't want to repeat such a boring life."After saying this, John left the boss's office freely.

After leaving office, John took some savings to a beautiful island for a holiday.The air here is so fresh, and people's life is so comfortable, lying on the warm beach, John even has the idea of living here forever.

Day by day, more than ten days later, John could no longer find the kind of leisure and relaxation he had when he first came to the island. He suddenly began to miss the busy days before. Under the guidance of this emotion, the gentle breeze on the beach also bored him.

So, he began to complain: "what's the meaning of such a day, watching the sun rise from the end of the sky, and then lying on the beach waiting for her to slowly set, no change, no new ideas, boring..."

In such complaints, the beauty of the island could no longer excite John.After five more days of solitude, John returned to the noisy world that he had despised and continued to devote himself to his previous work with passion.When negative emotions appear, complaining is a way of escapism that people use to paralyze themselves.

Under the influence of negative emotions, many of their own philosophy and values have become worthless in an instant. As a result, there are more things to complain about, and life is even more bleak.

In fact, when you are influenced by negative emotions, those complaints and complaints can relax you temporarily, but they are not what you really need. When this kind of good hope caused by emotional fluctuation is satisfied, you can't find more satisfaction and happiness from it, but only when you face reality directly, can you find your true happiness and satisfaction in the process of creating the value of life.

Complaining and escaping is just a noisy feast of negative emotions, which seems to be huge and grand, but compared with pursuit and ideal, it is meaningless.