I just read an article about Francis Chan the author of "Crazy Love". He left his mega church because the reasons you stated. He said it was a waste of time. He ended up starting a new church called "we are church". You should look into it. Here is the article. https://steemit.com/christian/@rusticman1/i-was-moved-by-this-article-when-it-said-gangs-are-a-better-picture-of-family-then-the-modern-day-church-201773t11569992z