It sounds like we have a very similar story, hope is absolutely the best defense against the soul crushing ideologies that have the power right now. It will change, time is on our side.

I think the outdoors and sports route is the best medicine for the youth but you're right, forcing soy boys to chop wood would likely backfire. There has to be some thing competitive out there beyond computer games and cards for these lost boys.

Frisbee, rocketry, go carts, chemistry experiments, really anything that gets them out side building/repairing things with their hands.

Building a tree fort with a group of kids their age can do wonders to increase testosterone. I live in a densely populated city and we can make the time to get out into the fresh air. More than anything I'd say time on our part as adults can help them drop the controllers and pick up a hammer.