"SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons".
Honesty is one of most essential component in any kind of relationship while there can be potential pros and cons we can see of having honesty in a relationship so let's see my final thoughts about this concept with a real life experience!
Honesty is always a best policy because it's a most vital component of foundation of a true and loyal relationship.It is a way of developing intimacy and healthy communication in a relationship also.When there will always be honesty in a relationship then all partners will work with compassion and love with eachother and in times of distress everyone will always be there for providing support to other and everyone will be able to get rid of challanges in life so overall honesty improves frankness and understanding in a relationship.While honesty may be bit tougher in some particular cases that I will discuss later on but before this let me share my real life love story with a heavy heart that comes to end after 6 years!
Characters of my love story are
Mainy characters in my real life love story are Sahar(me)and Afan(a person with which I was in love) but heroes of my story are Steemdoctor1 and malikusman1 because they saved me after Allah Almighty.So story starts when we move 6 years back in 2019!
I (Sahar)was a student of intermediate part II when I fall in love with a man who was 15 years older than me and his name is Afan(Not his real name).He was a physics professor in my college and at that time i have no access of mobile phone and i have no source to talk with him properly but still from mobile phone of my friend I tried to contact him and he responds me politely and gradually he knew that i am in love with him....
I badly fall in love with him at that time because it was my first sight love and my first crush of life.My relationship of love with him becomes deeper and deeper each day and I was used to think about him each and every moment.Suddenly due to COVID lockdown college management issued a notification that institute will remain close for 1 month and it was end of my second year.I took admission in university after 6 months and spend 6 months very hardly without having any contact with him.
In university I bought a new mobile phone for me and I remembered his contact.I text him and then he called me after long time and it was really a very emotional moment for me.He openly asked me that I can have a contact with him at anytime.Gradually he also started to show his interest in me.I was very honest with him and I shared each and everything with him(Even everything about my family also)
One day after 2 years of relationship he called me and he was crying at that time.I become scared that what happened to him and hurrily I went at his workplace and when I met him then he told me that If I want to continue this relationship then I have to share him with his first wife(This thing he never shared with me in first two years of our relationship).I was very loyal with him and I wiped out his tears and I still made a commitment with him that I will not go anywhere and will not leave you but you should be relaxed.
After that day I saw a change in his behaviour.He became rude with me day by day.He said in start of relationship that I am going through financial crisis and with my studies I did an online job for him so that I may do everything for getting him out of this difficult situation but instead of being very thankful for all sacrifices he started teasing me mentally and he tortured me mentally with verbal abuse each day and right after abusing me he always tried to trap me emotionally by saying that don't take this mental abuse serious because I am going through crisis and I am highly unstable mentally and I was a fool girl that I always trust at l these things and beer this abuse for four years.I never told anything to anyone.
Recently 4 months ago he asked me to leave my family including my parents and my siblings for my whole life and then he will get marry with me without telling anything to his first wife and it will be a secret marriage.I was attached with him from 5.5 years almost so I feel that I will die without hime and after these years I have a very strong emotional connection with him.I asked him to please don't do this with me.I don't want to leave my family for whole life and not you too.But he was just doing flirt with me.I send him a picture where I told him that I have taken 10 tablets and my stomach was empty and I will die and will comit suicide if he will not accept me with my family.
He asked me to not commit suicide and he said that he will accept me with my family.At next day he asked me to meet with him and I shared everything with Steemdoctor1 and malikusman1 (They are not only my friends,they are more than brother for me 💕).They said that they are not feeling something safe for me and they asked me to share my live location with them when I will go to meet with Afan.I keep their advice in consideration and shared my live location with them.
Their instinct was accurate and when I was in car with him then he started to emotionally blackmailing me and he snatched my mobile phone and off my online location that I shared with Steemdoctor1 and malikusman1.He said to me that he will take revenge because I give priority to my family over him but I was just asking to take pitty at me.I just saw a devil in him and I shouted for help at main road and there were some lawyers standing at side of road.After seeing them he stopped driving and I came out of car and I was shivering badly.Lawyers asked me that what happened with me.I told them about him that he is blackmailing me.
I am thinking now to take some legal action against him but today I am safe and alive is all because of Steemdoctor1,malikusman1 and that strangers(That lawyers who are not less than heroes of this story)!
Conclusion is that I was very honest with him from day 1 and I was in illusion about him that he is also honest and I suffered a lot mentally which also disturbed my physical and emotional health but at end God(Allah) sent Steemdoctor1 and malikusman1 just like angels for me and I believe that due to my honest feelings God choosed them to help me and to save me from him and at last I thought as you sow,so shall you reap!
Pros
• Honesty is a way of promoting trust in a relationship like if I relate it with my story then I was honest with him due to which there was strong trust in our relationship.
• Honesty is a way of promoting accountability in a relationship and responsibility too like I always told about each and everything of my life being a honest character of my love story.
• Honesty have an advantage of building good communication in a relationship so when I relate it with me,an honest character of love story then I always liked to communicate with him by telling him every happening of my life for maintaining a genuine conversation.
• Honesty have an advantage of imparting self awareness and authenticity in a relationship so in my relationship I always feel myself very genuine and satisfied being an honest character.
• Honesty reduces your stress because it's my personal experience as you can see through my story that being a honest person I was satisfied that in case of anything wrong in relationship Allah will protect me and this thing happened with me that how God saved me because of having a pure soul and heart so that's why I said that honesty is always important in a relationship.
Cons
• Honesty can give you a lot of emotional pain when someone hurt you and harm you at which you trust blindly as now a days I am in a lot of emotional stress because of his dishonest behaviour and his fraud.
• Honesty can be conflicting especially for a person who always shows more loyalty in a relationship like many times due to my honesty he argued with me and abused me mentally whenever I shared everything by thinking that he is one and only who can understand me.
• Honesty have more potential for misinterpretation because in my case whenever I tried to make my communication strong with him,he always misunderstood my feelings and tortured me instead of encouraging and motivating me.
MOD's Observations/suggestions
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You have presented a great love story. I liked it very much. No matter how much love story or real life, there is a lot of value in trust and of course truth through which everything can survive. I liked your debate very much and
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Thank you soo much for kind reviews 💕