What about BULLYING?

in #bullying6 years ago

 I want to start by saying that it means the bullying: 

Bullying is the deliberate and continuous physical and/or psychological abuse that a child receives from another or others, who behave with him cruelly in order to subdue and frighten him, with a view to obtaining some favorable results for the harassers or Simply to satisfy the need to attack and destroy that they usually present.

Sometimes we do things to please the other people we care about, but we do not ask if we are also important to them, we have to learn something, we do not define the number of friends we have, or popularity, or how you dress. What really matters is what you are. 

I grew up in the same school, from Little girl had the same friends, same teachers and same classes. I knew everyone, and that was an advantage as I knew who were true friends and who didn't, but when I was 12 my parents decided that I had to change schools. I was in my last year of primary school. 

The first day I was very frightened, I remember sitting in a corner, when a girl came to where I was and greet me, in my mind I thought I have a friend. The weeks were advancing and I realized that this "friend" was not really what I expected or what I was accustomed from my other school to a friend, she was very dominant, she wouldn't let her have other friends, she wouldn't let me get together or talk to other girls in the class and If he did, he'd speak ill of me. 

 Okay, now I understand why no one was meeting her, and as it was the new did not know what it was, and nobody warned me before, so I remained her friend. If you wonder if I told my mom of course I did and all she said was "you have to learn to live with all kinds of temperament." I was right? Of course, not everyone has a sweet temperament, affectionate and affective, it is good to know how to live with others, but at that time all I wanted was to return  to my old school, but I could not, and decided to turn it into a challenge, learn to live with her and the other girls who were there, and I did, and until today still the dominant girl is my friend. Of course many things changed, I put my limits and she realized that what she did was not right. 

 When I was in my second year of high school I happened something similar, I thought I had real friends but it was not, my group of friends made up 3 girls and 2 children, they always made fun of me, they made me less, they laughed at me , but I for some strange reason not away from them on the contrary I did to them everything they did I imitated, I wanted to feel accepted,  they practically forced me to be a bride of a child I did not like at all but I did to please them while they laughed at me. I got to the point that they even drugged me, and that's where I had to break that "friendship" and I did. 

 I came to understand that what I lacked was my own identity, I wanted other people to identify what I was because I didn't know it, I had to learn the hard way that I didn't have to pretend to be someone to fit in, I was me and that was all that mattered. 

Maybe you went through something similar to what I lived or you know someone who is going through bullying and the advice I would give you is: first, do not let others define who you are there are many who will say you can not do this, or even tell you that you will not be anyone in this life Or that you are not worth anything, but all that is a lie, your vouchers and there is someone who loves you so much that died on a cross for you and is Jesus, Never forget that although your feel alone do not these Jesus is always there for you, second, love yourself, valórate and do not look to the people to feel loved or valued by that nobody is perfect and the people fail, but the only one that does not fail is God and if you know that you lack love ask that you fill of love and don't need someone to feel good. And most importantly abócate someone to tell what you this happening in the College.

In conclusion you decide if others make you feel less or not, we all have problems, someone once told me do not expect love, compassion for someone in your house did not receive, so many children are bullies and bad, because at home is the only thing they receive. And remember there is always someone who loves us and never leaves us alone and is God.   

I hope you liked and served something, do not forget to vote and comment! And sorry for my English, not very good

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