" Do not Eat Alone " is the password for success!
No, it is not an article about healthy eating habits or a new way to fight depression, which is rampant through group eating, but since most of our people unfortunately only gather to fill their bellies. Why not use collective eating habits if we apply them to our destructive social relationships?
In his book "Do not Eat Alone", Keith Ferrazzi offers us some of the secrets of success in general, namely, the formation of social relationships in particular, and because healthy social relations have become obsessed with the right of our time; we have chosen the most important advice you should keep in mind Today to adopt relationships lasting for years.
First: Build it, Wide it and then tie it!
Do you know this friend you resort to whenever the disaster comes to you and is not delayed by you advice or visit or even ears? Or the one who adopts the function of your personal driver and brings you to any place on his way? The dealings of this distinctive kind of friends are probably not only limited to you, but extend to a network of colleagues and acquaintances who benefit from their service and cooperation.
We do not usually feel the value of helping others until we are in trouble, and we hope that the dust of the earth will help us. When you look at those former friends who are in trouble, you will see that all their investments in people are returning to them in time of need; interest simply generates interest.
When you receive an announcement about a training course that you do not need at the moment, do not skimp on your colleagues to publish it among them, someday you will need another course and you will be taught to benefit from your friends from your friends!
Knowledge networks do not come to fruition unless they add something to you and add to their business something else. To achieve this, do not make your acquaintances limited to the primary friends who grew up with them and ate from their homes, but expand this network to include people who differ from you and your environment and look at the world with their lenses, you will definitely find opportunities you never imagined before.
You will not be born able to carry 100 kilos at the same time, but this does not reduce the importance of your muscles and ability to carry this weight in the future with exercise and perseverance. As well as relationships, give her time and attention enough to increase trust between the parties and strengthen ties.
Whenever you meet with your friends or colleagues at a dining table, remember that they are the wood that builds your table of relationships, and the pleasures of the wide tables that include shapes and colors of dishes, which connect people around one motive is the need for this food.
Second: Do not exploit people in the name of friendship!
Your relationship with someone long ago does not give you the right to eat from his food and you are on the table without his permission!
We all know this exploitative category of people, someone forget you for months and time needs you to seize all opportunities to get your full interest. This person may not care about your new job and does not intend to congratulate you on it. But if your company opens up new business opportunities and sees your need for your business, you will be overwhelmed with calls to challenge every possible answer from your brain, and then savor your experience to ensure that you take the job.
Beware and then take care not to exploit the status of a person to achieve your personal goals without explaining the benefit that will come back from it; because in fact, away from the loyal lovers, do not build relationship only for the benefit. If the benefit is reciprocal and equal, relations are strengthened and strengthened, and if people find that you are robbing their energies and experiences without charge, they will ignore you first, then treat you with a stubbornness if you persist in your requests!
If you do not believe me that our relationships are based on mutual benefit, try to strip your partner close to all his advantages ... Is he still your partner?
Third: Be distinctive!
If you are invited to a gala dinner, you will most likely adopt a position of three: either attend or offer something and your time will be equal to your absence, or you will attend a familiar type of food and its time will be equal to the 20 others who attended the ceremony just like you, Adjust your settings other than. Your time will be quite different and will attract people's attention and impress you.
Before you think about consolidating your relationships with others, do your best to break the barriers between you and your true self. Know yourself, ask her: Who am I? Did not I? You must have something special, otherwise what would be the benefit of multiple people if they are equally efficient? I do not find more practical advice than experience. Try and then try and try until the experience is over. The unique feature of the experiments is that it is not boring and unfamiliar. With experience, you will be drawn to things and distanced from others, and discover your talents in some of them and develop others.
And the time you reach your point of excellence, your relationships will automatically be strengthened, because the parties to these relationships will learn something new every day that makes them feel indebted to you all the time.
Fourth: Do not walk playful!
It is God's wisdom to make us vary in excellence and ability, and this is a divine facilitation that helps us to form relationships with others; because by contrast we are attracted just as the negative charge is attracted to the positive only because it differs from them. Why do we hold things and pretend that we are always better?
Do not be a middle school student who deserves appreciation and respect from others for his superiority, but in fact not desirable; because the more his friends passed the less of him the superiority of accused of failure, and do not be surprised if people do not thank you for the delicious meal that I cooked them that evening, Their heads by comparing your cooking with the cooking of your colleague who gave you salty food once in five years!
Vanity poisones your relationships, and people most dislike is their feeling that they are dunk in abilities or possibilities. So, take advantage of these special qualities in building unique relationships that encourage those around you to get closer to you, and create the talents and advantages to employ not to boast about. Remember that no matter how great you are, you will not break the ground and will not reach the mountains in length.
Recapture the last time you felt happy flooding your heart. You'll probably find it time to help an old woman cross the street, or give a small balloon to wipe the tears out of his eyes, or the time you saved your collapsed girlfriend before the dreaded physics exam by three days. Are all emergency social situations. May result in long or short-term networks, but it requires you first and foremost to draw happiness on the hearts of those in need, and all of us need! Every reaction that comes from you affects someone around you in a way, and then reflects on yourself. If you see happiness in yourself, people are in fact a mirror for you, and if you are wrong, do not dream but yourself!