Cultivate Help for help

"One of the reasons God gives us strength is that we can help others"

Devinition Please Help

What does a steemian friend with the above quotes say?

As a human we have been educated to help each other. Remember how vulnerable we are?
Approximately what would happen if doctors, nurses, and of course our own mothers did not help us when we were born!
Are we going to live like now ??

We are individualistic beings, but at the same time social beings. We need privacy, but we can never live without side by side. does not mean that already rich can buy anything but no longer need other people, what can be bought with money ??
We can see how many rich people out there while never having happiness like the poor, they are willing to sleep in the woods, on steep cliffs just to find the satisfaction of the heart.
Are they no other jobs?
No! They have a lot of work and money but they have no satisfaction, like the feelings of people whose lives are simple who are always happy with simple things as well.
Happiness will not be able to buy as much as any money you have.
So we who are simple lives also should not berate them because we also need them as well as them. We all have flaws therefore we must cover each other's shortcomings instead of looking for differences.
In one form of work coveted by humans all over the earth. Attitudes of life help each other that can realize the creation of peace for humans. Because the attitude of helping each other helps is the key and tips of living peacefully wherever we are.

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The definition of help is an attitude to lighten the burden (suffering, trouble) of others by doing something. Assistance can be in the form of labor, time, or funds.

Before we give prior help we first need to know what help is most needed and what we can give, whether to do with action, time or finance.

Habits Attitude please help by people for many things, here are some definitions that can be done from an attitude between people:
The Perspective of Evolution Theory

According to the perspective of the theory of evolution, the essence of life is the offspring of gene life. Karamah genes in humans have encouraged humans to continue to survive for the genes live gene. One way that can be done to survive is to help other people.

A Protection of Relatives (family protection)

Humans tend to be easy in helping if the helpers are still in their family or relatives. The closeness that exists in the family makes people personally encouraged to help with people who are still belonging to family or relatives.

Biologic Reciprocity

In the understanding of the logic of every human being, when a person who has done good to others will get the same reward, because the things related to others will be an imprint to repay help to the person who once helped him in return.

Sociocultural Perspective

The sociocultural perspective is to look at the behavior of human help in three social norms in society. The third norm is:

• Social responsibility norms (norms of social responsibility) which mentions if people provide help to people in need of help without expecting retaliation.

• Reciprocity (reciprocal norms) which states if one has to help others who have helped him.

• Social justice norms, ie rules of fairness and equitable distribution of power.

Learning Perspective

Based on the learning perspective, people do help because it has been used since childhood. Young children who are accustomed to help each other usually more often do help attitude when he has grown up. but learning this helpful attitude is not only born because it is often in the teaching but also because often see others do it.

The Empathic Theory Perspective

Every human being is born not only in body form, but also endowed with thoughts and feelings. The element of feeling that exists within man to encourage Current empathy. Empathy alone is actually a complex response because it includes both affective and cognitive components.

With affective components, it means that one can imagine what other people feel and with the cognitive component of a person who is able to understand what the other person is feeling. It is this sense of empathy that encourages people to help each other with others.

Decision Making Perspective

Decision-making action, this is an action that can help us to help the right person for help and then take action. This process begins when someone sees someone else who needs his help. This person will then weigh and decide whether to provide assistance or not through many things. If he decides to provide help, then he will consolidate the great effort he will spend and add to the "rewards" he will receive (rewards that can not be materials, but may be other things, such as recognition or reward in the Hereafter).

PLEASe HELP

Help is a good deed, but there are still a handful of people who have not understood and are reluctant to help. Be it for the helpor and the help-seeker, keeping the ethics in the help need to be done Through the act of helping please not cause any discomfort for one or both parties.

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Ethics Help

There is nothing wrong with helping others, but helpfulness can be wrong if not done in the right form and way. Here is an ethic to watch out for:

Must be based on sincerity

Helping one must be based on sincerity. Our goal is to help others who are in distress. Do not try to help just to get rewarded. Good luck in helping you get rewarded by God through the other people we meet every day, do not just expect the people we help to avenge our good deeds.

Helping with Something Good

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Have you donated used clothes to victims of natural disasters? This act is used for people who are victims of natural disasters badly in need of clothing-the result of the outcome. But one thing to remember, donating a used clothes does not mean giving clothes that are hollow and dirty. In helping others, we want to give something good. If it can only help through used clothes, choose clothes that are still good and worthy to wear. Let there be no good deeds we do for others by giving help that we ourselves already want to throw it away because we have already underestimated them and will make them sad.

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Do It With Good Ways or Attitudes

In addition to helping with something good, please help should also be done in a good way. If there are mothers of parents who come to ask for help money, we will provide assistance when we are having sustenance. However, if we really can not help him then deny his request in a polite and subtle way. Never yell or berate those who ask for our help.

Do not Distinguish and choose love.

In help please, never discriminate others. Do not make the tribe, race, or religion to choose which people we want to help. If anyone has trouble, whatever his or her tribe, whatever his or her race, or whatever his or her religion should be we give you as soon as possible.

Do not Remember what we helped and Do not Limp

Many people have a habit of remembering what has been given to others. Some people come to mention the help they give to both the help and the others. Like the points that have been discussed before, give the help it must be sincere. Ikhlas who claimed also did not remember and even bring up the help we ever gave to others.
Ethics for those Who Ask For Help

Ask for help to make something very urgent. Suppose you are looking for money for a child who is severely ill then Borrow only when you are really pressed, like when your parents are sick or other urgent matters. do not you ever ask someone else's help by borrowing money only for something that is not important, just like buying new clothes because bored with your old clothes and for the spree.

Do not Borrow Often Used Tools

If you need the goods you will use, you better buy yourself to someone else. Suppose you need a lawn cutter, you better buy it because it will last long.

Do not Ask for Help for Unnecessary Things

Sometimes we do something that is actually easy to do. As a way out, we use others to help us. For example, you want to cook rice while we are in good health and have time it would be nice we cook it ourselves without having to ask help neighbors to cook rice at our home. This act is certainly not ethical, other than because it is our need, it is also very trivial to do.

Attention Body Language Helper

If you find someone, some people who are asked for help will respond spontaneously (there is a silent pause 2-3 seconds). No spontaneous response of people who are thinking, maybe he is busy to divide his spare time or find the right reasons with answer that he can not help. If this happens to you, there is no thought you will go any further to force yourself to ask for help. Spontaneous reply is an answer that comes from the subconscious. This answer is an indicator of insider sincerity help.

Do Not Force Force
Asking for help by force is a bad deed, even though you desperately need help. The person you ask to help will see you as an unpleasant person and a hobby of distressing others.

Conclusion

Good luck what we please, examples of helpful actions undertaken by a person in his daily life will be rewarded by doubled by god, light hands in help please, because in this life we are nothing perfect. hopefully we all have a happy family.

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