Wow! The best policy is not drinking at all if you know you have a problem. Alcoholism is a sickness and should be treated as such. You wouldn't offer a diabetic a cup full of sugar, why offer someone a drink if they know they shouldn't touch the stuff. Working for this boss would definitely not be a good idea. These dinners might become a habit. My husband's sister was killed by a drunk driver. It is something you ever completely get over. I also had a brother who was an alcoholic and lost everything, including his life to drink. I hope your friend is luckier and straightens hiself around before it is too late.