RE: What could go wrong if you keep looking for inner balance
I agree that we need to work towards balancing both our masculinity and femininity (probably mostly a result of socialization), but flags go up for me when you explain the pitfalls.
Men go along on their own, perhaps focusing too much on their feminine sides and then not understanding why all isn't well (an individual effort) and yet women are doing that by being with very masculine men (something they're not doing independently as your man example)?
Makes it seem men can grow independently and women cannot?
Are the men finding themselves with very masculine women? I do sense in this new awareness (culturally speaking) that many women are surpassing men in work and personal responsibilities, many men having allowed others to take care of them and now angry at women for their growth.
...woman finds herself attracted to strong and manly men and think, wrongly, that this passion is caused by her tendency towards her inner masculine energy.
Maybe, I'm missing something here, but don't you mean her inner femininity? And, what about men who are attracted to very feminine women? Does that mean they're projecting out as well?
No. The woman works hard to integrate her masculine side, so when she finds herself attracted to manly men she thinks "oh, I know why I'm attracted to these masculine men, they are reflecting my inner masculine side who now is surfacing".
Same with men who are attracted to the "little woman". The latter allows them to act like manly men, to express their masculine side, not their feninine aspect as they wrongly may think.
Okay, thank you. Your explanation makes more sense to me.