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RE: Getting Girlfriends for My Husband--Why I Encourage Him to Sleep With Other Women
You're making yourself out to be unconventional and have done the most conventional thing in the world, staying married. I would imagine the marriage is more balanced in his favour, with him being rather dominating.
Instead of trying to address his paranoid issues you take an evasive approach so you don't have to deal with this direct. I think you have written this to get confirmation that this is fine, but living with someone who is jealous and paranoid is draining.
Having sex outside of the marriage is quite common, I would imagine, but your justification sounds like avoidance.
Just my take away as you put it out there. But I wish you the best.
I'm really just writing this for catharsis. I don't have any other platforms where I can write about ANYTHING like this. Like, I couldn't write this on any platform my family, friends, or clients are on. These are real confessionals, and I'm not looking to get approval from anyone. One of the reasons I loved the idea of Steemit is that it's a place where I can write about anything, and it's nice to have an audience who doesn't know me. Something about writing for an audience anonymously is more therapeutic than writing just for me in a journal.
I totally understand. I feel a great deal of compassion for you. I am glad you can share anonymously on this platform. It's great for that, although when I signed up I used my real name as I didn't really think about the advantages of anonymity. I did enjoy reading your story as I found it very interesting, just a little sad though.
OMG !! Hon !!! search google stephmckenzie EVERYTHING you post on steemit shows in searches !, There are delays, but it is or soon will be there !!!!!
/sadness
Oh, I know. It's okay. If you read my article about how my husband's stalker caused me to have to erase eight years worth of freelance writing work and reputation from the internet and start all over again from scratch, you'll know I NEVER write under my married name anymore. Depending on whether I'm writing fiction, business articles and whitepapers for clients, or creative non-fiction, I use three different and distinct surnames, all from my family, but never my married name anymore. Anyone who knows me personally who was searching for me would be hard-pressed to find me anywhere online under my married name. I've checked, and re-check periodically. I don't want that crazy lady finding me again. This great book called "How to Be Invisible" by J.J. Luna allowed me to build my business again and still be online. I use my real first name, but take great care to not appear online with my married name. I don't even use my married surname on Facebook, and I'm only friends there with people I know in real life. I'm super careful. And, I never mention the actual names of anyone I know in these pieces. I just refer to them as "my husband," "my step-son," "my mother," etc.
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yup, underlying issues of mistrust and denial in my book. I don't see how they can possibly experience a truly honest relationship.