RE: "He doesn't treat me as he should and I don't know what to do about it. Any advice?"
I see what you are saying and I agree. I believe, on the happiness point, that it can only come from ourselves.
The rest, I state as being 2 in a relationship. For things to work out properly 2 must work at it equally and not just one. I am trying to understand what you mean by working on the relationship, being a counselor's approach. Isn't working on a relationship what makes it work?
Perhaps the way I am looking at it is different.
Maybe it is the word 'working' that is being misused. We can always work on ourselves to better ourselves. It makes things a whole lot better. If our spouse is not well in some way and we show them support, reassure them, uplift, be their shoulder, that can be seen as working on the relationship. But by no means see it as being "work" like a paying job. Is that what you mean?
If I may ask, what is the 'master' point of view? Is that under a title?
I'll comment on both things:
The regular approach to relationship, and life, is that if something is not to our liking we need to do something to fix it. The Master knows that all is well and, like you said, they can make a choice and change from within. By expanding their consciousness the Master allows their energies to serve them. And there comes a point when life flows smoothly, effortlessly. In the example you mentioned, the supprt of a not-well spouse is not for the sake of "working on the relationship" or because that's what a loving spouse should do, but rather because that supporting behavior is an act of expression of the master. As such, it flows effortlessly and benefits the spouse. All in all, my posts are all about the master approach to life. In this comment i touched it very briefly. :)
Wonderful!
It can take a lot of work one oneself to get there and I have yet to achieve it but I do know it.
You have gained a follower :) Thank you for elaborating on this. Much appreciated.