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RE: "I fancy a guy that I met. Have I stopped loving my boyfriend?" - Some words about polyamory
If your feelings flutter its not love it could be called in a better sense infatuation. Now if your really are in love you would never need any other relation. What for? Why would you need it? There is no excuse. Love is a strongest joy and yet it is wildest woe. Infatuations should not be mingled with love... Love of course doesn't see qualities in a person. If you start loving someone for qualities its not love its liking the quality.
This is a romantic perspective on relationships which I for one really love, although I know it's somewhat naive. You see, people can tremendously love several people at the same time. It's true though, and my experience tells me, that when one reaches a state of wholeness the urge to connect with other people dissipates.
Thanks for your valuable comment, mate 👍
As i already said loving for qualities is not love its liking that quality. So it would be injustice to love if we call we love many a people. Love for sure is eternal and divine. You fall into love not are you dragged into love... Pleasure is all mine having such a good conversations with you.
Some people would argue that the type of love you refer to, beyond qualities, is too sublime for the physical world... And only in dreams we often can experience that.
The definition for love i gave does exist. It's not only in dreams that you can experience. Mostly one sided love is of such kind... Because when its one sided you do it unconditionally.
I know, my friend, that such love you will experience, if not already, and it will not be one sided.