That is so sad to hear that people ransack the headstones, that is terrible, MI do have a little of my Mothers and fathers ashes in a pendant think but I do not wear them ever but have them in a special little place in our house
about your calves I can relate as I had the same and discovered through visiting a Vascular Dr that I had blockages and now have stents in both legs, have you had that checked, I have a follow up in a few weeks and hope there still good still