Broken But Not Defeated

It does not matter how long life may have beaten you down, if you do not remain in the ground, then you are not defeated. Life may want to break you in ways that you can never imagine - maybe from your place of work, at home, in your career, in your relationship, and you may even begin to feel like your life is moving in reverse. However, what you have to understand is that being broken does not mean being defeated. Your current situation is not supposed to conquer you if you will still rise again. A lot of beautiful stories have actually come from people who were once beaten down but refused to be defeated, why not you?

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It is worthy to note that being beaten does not show that you are weak or that you are not strong enough, rather it shows that you are human, that you have lived, tried, and have experienced something deeper. A friend of mine came some days ago to tell me how she had broken up with his boyfriend. She was feeling so bad and down, and I had to encourage her. I told her that for the fact that she is having the emotional pain means that her heart was actually involved in the relationship and that she cared. I encouraged her to pick up herself from the grief and from the disappointment, and then move forward. I also told her that it should not stop her from loving again and being loved. There are things that you may not have stopped from happening, but you can make a decision not to allow them to defeat you.

I have come to realise that the easy motivator to rise again is perspective. If all you keep your eyes on and all you could see around you are just dust, you will still remain on the ground. But if you lift up your eyes and see the bigger and better picture, and can picture your great tomorrow, you will begin to see reasons to rise up. Just to remind you that a lot of people have passed or are even passing through the same broken situation, or even worse. So do not think that your own situation is the worse there has ever been. Many people have also made it through some very tough and difficult life situations, and have now become celebrated, you too can.

In order to gather enough strength to rise up, you have to first accept where you are. To deny the obvious, means that you may delay your healing. You have to also learn to embrace your emotions. That you embraced your emotions and that you showed signs of pain does not make you appear weak. Just know that the pain might be real, but the truth is that the pain is not permanent. After you have accepted where you are, then you have to understand that it can change, and then speak to yourself that your situation can change. Your words can actually affect the way you take on things. If you convince yourself that you are not defeated, then you can still make something out of your life.

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You also need to have people who will help encourage you to keep going. There are times when you may feel broken, but just a kind word or an assistance from a friend may be what will lift you up. The people you stay with can either lift you up when you are broken or make you to feel defeated. This is why you have to be with people that will positively impact on your mentality to make you take positive steps, and will also encourage you, not the people that will continue to remind you of your failure and will constantly make you feel down.

In addition to all these, you have to also know that you need to take steps. You should not wait until you are very strong before you take any step. A small step you take to rise from where you have fallen or do what you had failed at might be what will make the most impact. No matter where you are or what life may be throwing at you, always know that there is still a way out, so walk in that consciousness, and then take steps towards it.

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