First You Have to Stop Digging!
There seems to be huge volumes of "good advice" as to how we can best live happy and fulfilling lives.
The problem with much of it is that it merely teaches us — at least if you stop and "read between the lines" — how to better manage our existing bad habits, but not how to actually get to the root of those bad habits so we can change them for something better.
Perhaps that should not be entirely a surprise, given how often people are actually massively uncomfortable with the idea of being alone with their thoughts as an exercise in identifying their own motivations.
When you find yourself in the bottom of the deep hole, the first thing you have to do is STOP DIGGING!
We dig all kinds of holes for ourselves, often based not on conscious intention, but simply because that digging represents "how we've always done things," and maybe we feel additional pressure because it's how "everybody else" does it.
The mere fact that we now find ourselves at the bottom of a metaphorical "hole" is a poignant reminder that "how we've always done things" is actually not working!
I'll be the first to admit that the process of "reinventing yourself" can be a scary proposition. But sometimes it is what we need to do... stop digging and try a completely different approach.
It's different from merely getting out of your figurative "hole" because it isn't working, and then going right back to digging a different hole because you didn't actually take the time to get at the root cause of why you invariably end up at the bottom of the hole.
These "holes" can take many different forms in our lives... ranging from "always" ending up doing jobs we don't like, for shitty bosses who are abusive to employees... to how we approach our love relationships, always going after one particular "type" of personality, even though it never works out well.
We can't really hope to change anything, unless we're willing to look at the root causes; and that requires stopping and having a long hard look at things we do.
It's like the current Ozempic weight loss craze people are so invested in. You could argue that it "works" but for the most part, you're just going to end up weighing less and having the same poor eating and exercise habits that caused you to get overweight, in the first place. So are you actually healed? Absolutely not!
Just something to keep in mind!
Thanks for stopping by, and a have a good remainder of your week!
How about you? Are you good at digging up the root causes of your repeating patterns? Or are you more likely to just manage the symptoms? Leave a comment if you feel so inclined — share your experiences — be part of the conversation!
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Created at 2025.04.02 01:06 PDT
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