DIS-connected...

I have been a "people watcher" for as long as I can remember. I find it fascinating to look at people and their interactions... and peek beneath the surface of things; the understand the dynamic that unfolds in front of me.

Perhaps some of my fascination arises from a sense of disappointment, dating back to my childhood... looking at the artificial looking way people relate.

When I was just a kid, I looked at it and thought to myself "I want MORE than that."
When I was an adolescent, I looked at it and said "I want MORE than that."
As a young aduly, I looked at it and declared "There's GOT to be more than that!"

There is more than that... but I suppose I was quite naive about just how rare those deep soul connections truly are.

I was at the supermarket today, and I couldn't help but watch couples there, wandering around, doing their shopping after the weekend.

I'm sure many of them would insist that they have "good relationships," and yet they seemed so disconnected from each other, like they were just "going through the motions," their eyes somewhat distant and almost dead.

I'm not talking about the familiarity you see in old married couples... this is something different; almost as if they were no more than each other's "place holders," perhaps being in more of a "situationship" than an actual relationship.

As I wandered around, "hidden" behind the busy-ness of putting things in my shopping basket, I couldn't help but remember how I'd look at these very same people — back in my youth — and think "There's GOT to be more than that!"

Of course, there's a lot of truth to the idea that amazing relationships don't just "happen;" you really have to work on them to make them happen. Even so, you have start with good "bones;" a good connective foundation.

I sometimes think about my own parents, and how their marriage was far more of an arrangement than a deep connection. Maybe they were some version of "in love" when they first met; maybe their relationship was always based mostly on the idea of making sense, more than anything.

Maybe it's naive to think that you can have an "epic" connection with someone; in particular the partner you choose to spend your life with.

A lot of people claim they want it, but they don't often choose it... often in the name of expediency. They aren't ready to wait around for years or even decades for that kind of lightning to strike.

Or maybe they are merely afraid of actually having that thing their heart and soul desires most... or they aren't in a head/heart space where they feel deserving.

And so, I look at all the disconnected people at the supermarket and I wonder: Do they ever think about the epic in life? Or is that simply a distractionary folly that keeps us from focusing on doing laundry, taking out the garbage and walking the dog?

Thanks for stopping by, and have a great week!

How about YOU? Did you every find yourself waiting for a truly EPIC connection with someone? Or does that just seem like fantasy, or a silly dream? Leave a comment if you feel so inclined — share your experiences — be part of the conversation!

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